kickintheaz Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 ...biological.. we're hunter gatherers, back in the stone age days we had to get the best female in order to reproduce and get the healthiest, fittest, biggest, off spring and thus ensure our race survived... so we had to compete with all the other club wielding hunter gatherers and that meant chasing the gals... and now in the year 2010 its all been thrown out the window cos women have a 'wink' function too, on match.com!
waynebrady Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Men chase because most women wont initiate a damn thing. I completley agree. From what I have seen most men don't actually like "chasing" a woman, they just do it because they have to if they want a woman. I don't like the idea of chasing either but I know I'll have to if I want a woman. Because like you said most women won't initiate anything, and add to that most women also play hard to get which makes it even harder.
carhill Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Yep, experience dictates action. Whether that is getting the plum business deal, the bargain at the auction or the hot lady observed on the street. It's guaranteed that, if a man isn't in there pushing and shoving, he'll merely be a spectator to the world of men going by him. I see it every day.
yessy21 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 i dont know about any other girl out there but if im interested in a man ill let him know. a smile usually speaks louder than words. i think its a little of both.
sunshinegirl Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I can't make any grand pronouncements of nature v. old fashioned, but I know that for me, the relationships that didn't work out had me pursuing the guy at least to some extent. And in those relationships I always had some level of insecurity about whether he really liked me or wanted to be with me. By contrast, my soon-to-be-husband spent 4-ish months pursuing me before I came around, and since that time I've never once wondered how he felt about me or whether he wanted to be with me. So for me, I'd say it has worked out better to let the guy pursue. *Shrug* - YMMV.
yessy21 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 IT IS. its friendly warm and inviting. and with eye contact its defenitley a HUGE sign. the brain triggers an authentic smile when it sees something it likes. and my answer wasnt a "IM not like that" answer its just me making an opinion as an individual.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Old school mentality. If it was biological, women would never, ever approach and that isn't the case these days. It's not biological, but rather social conditioning. Look at movies and fairy tales and that's where many women get the idea that's how life works. Life isn't a movie or fairy tale.
theBrokenMuse Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Old school mentality. If it was biological, women would never, ever approach and that isn't the case these days. It's not biological, but rather social conditioning. Look at movies and fairy tales and that's where many women get the idea that's how life works. Life isn't a movie or fairy tale. All species of animal have courting and mating rituals. Ours has simply happened to have evolved as that of males courting females and as much as gender equality is a popular idea, we are not going to undo such an ingrained mechanism in a short period of time.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 All species of animal have courting and mating rituals. Ours has simply happened to have evolved as that of males courting females and as much as gender equality is a popular idea, we are not going to undo such an ingrained mechanism in a short period of time. But unlike other animals, humans are able to think things through, as well as control our urges. Point is the concept is still social conditioning.
theBrokenMuse Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 But unlike other animals, humans are able to think things through, as well as control our urges. That really has nothing to do with our evolutionary psychological makeup. It's the difference between knowing something and feeling something. We can rationally know something but it does not conclude that it means we are going to be able to change an ingrained behavior that has been around since the age of the Neanderthal overnight simply because we have knowledge of it. Personally, I don't know if it will ever change totally or what the impact would be if such a drastic shift were to happen.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 That really has nothing to do with our evolutionary psychological makeup. It's the difference between knowing something and feeling something. We can rationally know something but it does not conclude that it means we are going to be able to change an ingrained behavior that has been around since the age of the Neanderthal overnight simply because we have knowledge of it. Personally, I don't know if it will ever change totally or what the impact would be if such a drastic shift were to happen. The shift has already been ongoing for the past 15-20 years. As for a real drastic shift, we probably won't be around when it happens. But there's no doubt that the shift will continue to slowly occur over the years.
Seamless74 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I have to admit its one of the more annoything things that keeps coming up while reading threads around here especially from us guys... All this women never initiate or approach why do we have to do everything... Because were supposed too... thats why... and secondly do you want the women to come up and run game on you.. "BEWARE OF THE FOX THAT COMES TO YOU" I just say dont chase but look for the signals...(you may be wrong but youll most likely be in better shape than if you dont) And just confidently present yourself as a man.... Its all you can do... I mean theres only 3 types of women: (broadly speaking) 1,) SMART ONES they know why your there they recognize that you responded to their advances like its been done for a 1000 years. And most importantly they know how to respond in ways that will allow you to confidently move the situation forward.. 2.)DUMB ONES They know how to give the signals to get you over there but are at a total loss as to how to help you proceed and may need a little help.. could just be as nervous as you or a little bit unsure. May never have been approached before you never know... Maybe as bad as flirting as you are.. 3.)NOT INTERESTED (maybe just not interested right now) Boyfriends, Husbands, bad mood, in a hurry, whatever... good news is you cant really right any of the three types off... But i think number 1 should be the preference.. But you dont have to chase women because they have initiated most relationships since the beginning of time I mean i dont care how bad ass most of the guys think they are around here and their pickup up prowess 9 times out of 10 the woman chose you before you even realized it... Of course because theyre so deliciously cute and smart they just never told you that so you could continue to think your a badass...
audrey_1 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Men chase because most women wont initiate a damn thing. And the women KNOW you will come running no matter what. From what I have seen most men don't actually like "chasing" a woman, they just do it because they have to if they want a woman. I don't like the idea of chasing either but I know I'll have to if I want a woman. It's guaranteed that, if a man isn't in there pushing and shoving, he'll merely be a spectator to the world of men going by him. Hmm. I don't think is a rule. I know a guy that never lifts a finger. If he does, it's only in the very beginning. From that point, if women want to interact with him, they have to contact him. He went to the movies last Friday with a female who asked him to go, and she paid for the movie.
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