OceanGirl Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 OK, I know there are threads about this but: Against my better judgement I re-enabled my OKC account and had lunch with someone from there just today. The bill came, and he split it by what we had. I mean he actually added up what I had and what he had and we payed separetly. He never offered to pay I thought that this is a clear sign of no interest, but he texted me later that he wants to see me again. But, his stinginess REALLY bothers me. I am pretty generous with money. LAUNCH?
Author OceanGirl Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Yeah, he did. And lunch was about $15 each.....This has never happened to me before to be honest. I don't want to be too harsh, but seriously dude?
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 If he initiated, then yes he was obligated to pay. To quote the great Hokie...LAUNCH.
Sabali Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I thought you were supposed to be somewhere reflecting on the meaning of life? What are you doing back dating? Damn. Forget I asked.
USMCHokie Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 But, his stinginess REALLY bothers me. I am pretty generous with money. LAUNCH? If he initiated, then yes he was obligated to pay. To quote the great Hokie...LAUNCH. You are all awesome, and you even typed it in all caps like it's supposed to be (and bold, no less)!!! Umm, yes, LAUNCH. Regardless of who initiated, it is just damn gentlemanly for the guy to pay for the first date...I mean, come on now...seriously...?
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 You are all awesome, and you even typed it in all caps like it's supposed to be (and bold, no less)!!! Umm, yes, LAUNCH. Regardless of who initiated, it is just damn gentlemanly for the guy to pay for the first date...I mean, come on now...seriously...? If she initiated the date, then she would be obligated to pay.
skydiveaddict Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I can never understand why a man won't pay for his date. Then he will stand there with his thumb in his a$$ wondering why she isnt interested anymore.
skydiveaddict Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 If she initiated the date, then she would be obligated to pay. I do not agree
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I do not agree That's your opinion. But if you initiate a date, you should pay. It's commn courtesy. Doesn't mean you shouldn't bring money or offer, but the person that asked out the other one should pay.
Author OceanGirl Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Not only that, but he went over every bill item and was adding them up (including cents) and then gave me my total
skydiveaddict Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Regardless of who initiated, it is just damn gentlemanly for the guy to pay for the first date...I mean, come on now...seriously...? Yes, this how it should be done.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Not only that, but he went over every bill item and was adding them up (including cents) and then gave me my total That's just petty. LAUNCH.
Star Gazer Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 If she initiated the date, then she would be obligated to pay. Disagree. No one is obligated to do anything. Dude always pays on the first date, regardless of who pays. Not out of OBLIGATION either, just because it's the gentlemanly thing to do. A guy who doesn't pay on the first date is not boyfriend husband material, and that's who you should be dating, OG. Husband material.
USMCHokie Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 If she initiated the date, then she would be obligated to pay. I agree for later dates, but not on the first date.
Star Gazer Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Not only that, but he went over every bill item and was adding them up (including cents) and then gave me my total I don't say LAUNCH, really. I say the old-fashioned term: NEXXXXXXT! Onward and upward. Don't even give this one another second in your mind.
Woggle Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Women make thier own money these days so they can at least split the bill. This is another case of convieent equality.
skydiveaddict Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 That's your opinion. But if you initiate a date, you should pay. It's commn courtesy. Doesn't mean you shouldn't bring money or offer, but the person that asked out the other one should pay. Yes that is my opinion, and "The Great Hokie" agrees with me. Max, it's just common courtesy for a man to pay for the date.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Disagree. No one is obligated to do anything. Dude always pays on the first date, regardless of who pays. Not out of OBLIGATION either, just because it's the gentlemanly thing to do. A guy who doesn't pay on the first date is not boyfriend husband material, and that's who you should be dating, OG. Husband material. IMO, it's outdated. Sorry, but if I'm asked out, I shouldn't be expected to pay simply because I'm a man. If you don't like it, don't ask the guy out.
USMCHokie Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Not only that, but he went over every bill item and was adding them up (including cents) and then gave me my total :laugh: That is just an incredible amount of FAIL...
Star Gazer Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Women make thier own money these days so they can at least split the bill. This is another case of convieent equality. Lots of women are equally as strong. Should they open the door for you too?
USMCHokie Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 IMO, it's outdated. Sorry, but if I'm asked out, I shouldn't be expected to pay simply because I'm a man. If you don't like it, don't ask the guy out. Eh, in my opinion, old fashioned chivalry ain't never gonna be outdated...
audrey_1 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 convieent equality What does this mean? How is equality convenient?
Star Gazer Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 IMO, it's outdated. Sorry, but if I'm asked out, I shouldn't be expected to pay simply because I'm a man. If you don't like it, don't ask the guy out. That's the other thing, I don't... I don't ask for the first date, I don't pay for the first date, and I don't put out on the first date.
Woggle Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Lots of women are equally as strong. Should they open the door for you too? Yes. They can open their own doors as far as I am concerned.
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