tylerdurden Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I just had a little romance with one of my coworkers..Well she bailed out on me a few times with (legitimate?) excuses.. So I called everything off. The thing is that we are working together. How should I act ? should I just ignore her? or should I be civil with her? Thanks for your input
machiavellian Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Why would you ignore her? Just act normal, minus the flirting.
Sabali Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I just had a little romance with one of my coworkers..Well she bailed out on me a few times with (legitimate?) excuses.. So I called everything off. The thing is that we are working together. How should I act ? should I just ignore her? or should I be civil with her? Thanks for your input Absolutely always treat this situation in a professional manner. You will treat her at work as if you had never dated her at all. Smile and say "good morning" and act as if nothing has ever happened. Always do this.
Author tylerdurden Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 Well in one way she didn't show me respect, thats why I would ignore her. Our job doesn't require us to talk.
Gattica Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I had/have a similar situation happening at my work place. We dated for a couple of months and I found out he was lying from day one and his only objective was to have sex with me. I feel like a fool when I am around him, even though I did not have sex with him. I am civil with him and it was hard in the beginning and I admit to getting smart with him and letting him know that he had really hurt me. I still feel very uncomfortable around him, but we say hello when we see each other. He used to try and act as though we were friends and try to have conversations with me, but it was all one sided and I didn't play along. Now that he has a girlfriend, he limits what he says to me which is good. If you don't normally have to speak to one another at work, then don't. I only speak to this guy when it is work related or we land up in the same room together and it doesn't go any further than hi and/or how are you.
Tripp1 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Be completely civil. Act like the bigger person. Put on the persona that "well things didn't work out but you aren't going to let if affect your life". There's a chance that with this persona she may even come back. But I wouldn't take her back anyway, because there are far too many women out there to keep going back and forth with a girl who is unsure. Also, don't let it get too complicated with work relationships, those can turn sour quickly. Tripp
Author tylerdurden Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 I followed your advice , and I have been acting like nothing has happened, so quite friendly. However , she is extremely nervous around me, like she cant look at me in the eyes when she talks. I have noticed that she talks a lot with everyone else but me, but when we are in group she gives me flirty looks. Why is she acting like that?
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