furbaby Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I've known this guy for about a year. We dated a bit when we first met, but I wasn't over a bad breakup then and I just wanted to be friends. We've remained friendly since then, but only recently reconnected like 2 months ago. We've been spending a lot of time together, and we've gotten really close in the past few weeks. Although neither of us have acknowledged it, what we're doing at this point is basically dating. I really like spending time with him, and he is definitely someone I could be in a relationship with. But I want to go slowly. Part of the reason why my last relationship ended was because my ex-boyfriend wanted to label us as boyfriend-girlfriend after a month of dating (this is probably normal for most people, but I am a bit of a commitment-phobe and I always do better in relationships when I can ease into them). I got cold feet with him because things were going fast for me, and then the whole relationship just crashed and burned. I've had a few false starts with the guy I'm seeing now. I know he's always liked me, but it wasn't until recently that I was finally over my ex and I started to see how great this guy is. I don't want him to think that I don't like him just because I'm not ready to call him my boyfriend. I'm not dating anyone else and I'm not even thinking about anyone else, but I'm still not quite ready to put a label on this. I feel the relationship talk coming any day now, and I'm not afraid to have it, but I am worried that he might not understand why I want to take things slowly. I want things to work with him. Am I being weird? Is there a good way to explain this to him? Would you be mad if someone told you the weren't quite ready for a label?
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