kristo Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Hi, I am a boy of the age 16. I met a girl two months ago, i got out on a date with her, everything went just fine. Now i have bought her roses and i she hugs me for that. I really like her, but almost every time we are together i get out of a topic to small talk about. This makes the embarrassing silence we all know about. I really feel like she is a bit uncomfortable when this happens, I like to watch her in the eyes and she watches me back. I am wondering what to do to prevent this silence? And what to make her laugh. I think she likes me, but we are still far away from boyfriend and girlfriend. Hope you can help me! Sincerely yours. Kristo
alexlakeman Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Talk about school, college plans, wknd plans (bowling, movies, beach etc), what you each like to do with your freinds, family... Ummm, hmmm, get to know each other more by asking eahch other q's about your personal lives, where you grew up, sibblings.
kickintheaz Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 first off congrats on finding a nice girl.. agree with alexlakeman.. small talk is just that, its about everything and anything... all the topics alex mentions are viable ones for you, talk about your family, did you see something funny on tv the night before? did something ridiculous happen in class, any big events for your age group coming up in the locality.. just take the lead, if needs be, prep a few topics in your head on your way to meet her, remember funny little incidents, if needs be write em down at night and read over em before ya go meet her.. (but DON'T bring the paperwork with you, just remember em!!!!) most of all, when she talks, LISTEN to what she is saying, really listen and ask her questions.. even if its something as simple as her saying 'she likes going to the mall'... really? what shops are your favourite? if she names a particular shop ask her more about it, if mentions book shops ask her what she likes to read, movie shops, what films she likes... ya get the point... no matter what age they are, girls appreciate a man who can listen and engage in that topic, she's talking about a particular subject because she likes it, so roll with it.. find out common interests and share your stories and let her share hers.. and before long the uncomfortable silences are replaced with lots of light banter and if there is a silence, its a genuine, comfortable, happy to be just sitting there looking at you type.. best of luck with her OP...
Author kristo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 Thank you guys I have not been able too see her now for a couple of days now since we have alot of work now. But after this short vacation i am going to try to visit her as much as i can (without seeming too desperate of course). I think she still has the feelings for me, but we are both a bit shy
alexlakeman Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Glad we could help. It's best you haven't seen her for a few days. This way you WILL have more to talk about the things that have been going on in your lives the last few days. You're lucky for the internet and being able to ask q's. When I was 16 there was NO internet to ask. It was learn as you go. Take control of the conversations, if that makes sense. And like someone said LISTEN to her and follow up talking , making comments, and asking questions about what she's talking about. Act interested in her stuff too. Gd luck
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