MrForumUser Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Ok so il try to explain this from the beginning. Yesterday my mom told me some friend ( female ) from work told her to drop by for a visit and since their flat is like a bit away I drove her since she doesn't have a drivers license. Long story short they have a daughter around my age and introduced me to her ( she was in her room ) , so I stayed in her room and we started talking a bit, at the beginning she was a bit reserved but then really opened up, laughed at my jokes ,long eye contact , flirting going on, the mood was really good and I could see the signs of attraction , touches and teasing going on a bit too and it lasted for quite a while, and I have to say I really started liking her and what shes about, however.. When we went out of the room because they called us to the living room she seemed very distant , didn't say much , also almost no eye contact with me or if she did look at me she looked away instantly when I looked at her. Thoughts? Advices?
denise_xo Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Well, it could reflect her relationship with her mother rather than with you. I'm not particularly communicative with others when my mom is around, due to the nature of our relationship.
USMCHokie Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Ummm...did you get any contact info such as a phone number or an email address for this girl...? If you didn't, wouldn't her "signals" be kind of irrelevant...? And to echo denise's thoughts, I act completely different when my family is in the vicinity...
jerbear Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I would say people act differently in front of their parents and relatives. I won't be lovely dovey in my parents home or significant others parents home. One of my ex's won't even let me spend the night because her mom lives with her.
Author MrForumUser Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 The thing that confused me most when we were with the family was the eye contact, she looked away fast the second I looked at her , why if she maintained long eye contact with me when we were alone?
denise_xo Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Well, maybe she was just feeling shy in front of her parents? Sometimes looking away is actually an indicator of interest. I've just been observing two colleagues having an affair (well, not literally, but their interaction during a work shop and knowing that they are having an affair), and one of the cues to what is going on is that they don't make eye contact in situations where colleagues would normally look each other in the eye. Avoiding eye contact can be a way of trying to prevent others to figure out what is going on. Not saying this necessarily applies to your case, but it's a possibility.
FL Lady Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Agreed. I believe her response is more about them than you. Take her on a date and then see.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 We can't read her mind either. Ask her out, and then you'll know.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 That mother is going to suffocate that daughter, if she hasn't already. First socially, and I wouldn't totally write-off physically as well, someday. What you witnessed is no reflection on you at all. IF/when you get to date her, go ahead and ask her directly about what you witnessed there when she went back toward her mom. Let her express... (just doing that should be a great bonding experience)
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