sarahkm Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I dated this guy for about 3 months. Purely physical, very little emotional connection. Our circumstances make it slightly harder to have a long term relationship, but not impossible. So we broke up, almost mutual, but not quite. I'd continue seeing him but only if he wanted a serious relationship, but he doesn't. And I don't want us to continue dating the way we are. But now, he wants to be friends still, and see what happens in the future, whether or not we get back together. I don't know if I should remain friends with him. advice please!
USMCHokie Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I generally don't remain friends with women I've dated that didn't work out. I have enough friends. There's really no benefit to it other than additional unnecessary drama down the line...
machiavellian Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I've never remained friends with anyone I've dated, and I have never once felt anything was lacking in my life or friends, nor have I wondered what if.
Sabali Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 (edited) Where do folks get this friends-with-ex crap anyway? It must be that show Friends itself. You saw Ross and Rachel do it and now you think it can translate into the real world? Turn off the TV. C,mon. It's the little red button on the top right hand side of the remote. Stop watching that stuff! Down here in real life land, you can't be friends with your ex. the $#it just doesn't work. And no one is interested in the freak accident that you witnessed with your local butcher becoming friends with his ex and how that one worked out. Mutations occur all the time in nature but it is a random event that should never be taken as the rule. Now, I am not saying you can't stay in contact with them eventually after the smokes clears or help each other out here and there after the smoke clears. That's different but don't expect to be shooting pool and downing beers together. On anothe note, how come all the posters who are pathologically crazy around here gets so many responses and views when they create a thread in this place? The crazier they are, the more people are fighting to become their Prozac. It's just like a relationship. The craziest person in the relationship dominates it and the craziest poster in the forum dominates it. Meanwhile, poor Billy who is getting his innocent little heartbroken because he fell in love with the neighborhood slut is getting no attention around here. Help poor little Billy. Some of us are hopeless. Ooops...gotta go. Friends is on! Yay! Edited October 5, 2010 by Sabali
Star Gazer Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 You absolutely, 100% can be friends with an ex... BUT, not under the current circumstances, where you want a relationship and he doesn't. True friendship only exists once all romantic feelings are gone. IME, friendship blossoms years later, after you've both lived through other relationships. But not right after a breakup... nearly impossible.
Sivok Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I'm friends with one of my exes. We were really good friends before hand, and after a 6 month period of NC when emotions on both ends vanished, we were able to pick up where we left off before getting together. We don't talk often, but it isn't weird when we do.
Crazy Magnet Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 No. I just need more letters before it will let me post.
Serenitynow Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Purely physical, very little emotional connection. As far as I know thats not dating, thats just f*cking each other we broke up, almost mutual, but not quite.A classic female line. You say its like this but not really, always double standards when women explain things. I don't know if I should remain friends with him. advice please!How can you seriously rely on strangers on a forum to make life choices for you ?
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