LK30 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Well I split from my ex last Christmas, and despite taking some considerable time to recover as if I had been in some sort of car crash I got back into dating. It's feast or famine as last month I suddenly had two girls show me some interest. I think one was just after some fun, but I started to think she wanted more, however I knew I'd be taking on a lot of her problems in life and it did put me off. The other girl is lovely. At least in personality, and we get on so well that the hours feel like minutes when we sit and chat, and we really do click. The problem is (here we go!) is that I'm not sure if I'm attracted to her. I have been persisting with it and met about 5 or 6 times, and admittedly we have crossed the 'friendship line,' but I just cannot work out in my head if I like her or not in a gf sense. I just haven't felt the buzz feeling I thought I'd get being in a new r'ship, and I guess sometimes this spark takes time to build up rather than being instant. I'm not sure what to do as it's still early days, and I think I'm like a poster from earlier tonight who said when you're single you hate it, and when you're in a relationship you miss being single! I'm certaintly not nasty or an idiot (I hope!) but I am just soooo indecisive. Perhaps I just fear being in a relationship as unfortunately so many have ended in heartache. What do you guys think? Cheers :-)
welikeincrowds Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Stop worrying about expectations, and go with it, until that moment, should it arise, that you are absolutely certain it does not feel right. You don't need to have answers or a plan in motion right now. Just enjoy her company.
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