almsolitarie Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I went for a couple of times on a date with a guy I fancied a lot, in our second date we had so much time together that at the end of the night we kissed. We had to meet next day and he stood me up. I was furious. Next day he sent me a flirtatious email adding that he was sick, but he didn´t apologize or anything like that. So we emailed back and forwards until I found him in the chat and came up with the question "why didn´t he show up on Sunday without telling me?" He said that he felt guilty because he kissed me and he didn´t want to give me the impression that he was available. He said that he misinterpreted my intentions and that by telling him that I wanted to know him better I meant that I wanted to have a serious romantic relationship with him, but just only knowing him to see whether we could develop something. It made me furious because he did not give me the chance to explain myself and all this conversation was through the chat, and he is 43!!! Two days later after this conversation we talked again. I explained myself saying that I only wanted to know him better and that I didn´t think he was available, as he´s got a kid and a very demanding job. We clarified the situation and he mentioned he didn´t want to ruin our friendship for few hours making it out. However, after this conversation on Friday, he didn´t contact me when before we talked pretty much everyday. I don´t know what to do. On one side I am angry of his reaction and his over interpretations, specially that he stood me up, but on the other, I feel bad for being upset, as we have got common friends. There is a festival coming on in our city and I am hesitating about letting him know in case he wants to join it, but I don´t know if I should ever contact him again as he doesn´t seem to be interested in our friendship, or maybe I am overreacting.
welikeincrowds Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Actions, not words. He stood you up without warning, and that's all you need to know. Forget this a**hole.
FL Lady Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Actions, not words. He stood you up without warning, and that's all you need to know. Forget this a**hole. I agree 100%. There are many super nice guys out there. He is NOT one of them.
Art_Critic Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 First off.. he is lying to you about why he stood you up.. the excuse he gave you was one he knew would disarm you. Chances are he was out with another girl... He lied to you about why as well.. first he told you he was sick, then lies about how he didn't want to look easy.. hahahahahaha.. so he now has lied more than once.. Dump the chump.. Any guy who would knowingly stand up a woman, not apologize and then lie about it and go on like it doesn't matter is an absolute assclown. If you date this man it will rip you apart... he will hurt you.. knowingly..
that girl Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Run away. This guy is 43 and he stood you up because he was supposedly freaking out. Either he is the most immature 43 year old on the planet or he is a liar. Both are terrible signs. And you do want to seriously date him. Just because you don't want to jump into anything doesn't change the fact that he doesn't see this turning into a relationship. Do not ever contact him again. Be friendly but distant if you happen to see him, but don't get involved. It will end badly if you do.
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