bboy Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I'm currently healing/dwelling after a relationship that ended ~3 months ago. It left some big scars. My ex "stabbed" me where she know it would hurt the most. So I'm debating with myself a bit on if I should go out and start seeing others again. I'm a bit afraid that bringing too much history that occured recently will affect me both socially and emotionally. Since I'm not looking for a rebound but rather something that can stand for by itself, I have my doubts. The emotional roller coaster is still moving. For those of you who've been into my situation. What did you do and how did you move on?
Author bboy Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Hmm... not much of advice. Surely someone else must have been in my situation?
sica Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I think if you are unsure about jumping in...then wait. It seems like the chances of being triggered or talking too much about the previous relationship are high right now. I have been there, the guy I went out with just made me think of my ex and become sad. Give it some time. Good Luck!
PrettyPoppy Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Personally, I would hold off. You may alienate a really great person if you date. The only people/date I've found ever works when still grieving is..cough..someone you sort of don't like and never would. Obviously this won't work for anyone seeking a future with someone (plus it's sort of yuck IMO) There is no rush. I've learned this the hard way - via doing dumb stuff like dating someone I don't like or being the worst date ever with someone terrific... The guy I broke up with was my first venture out post a long self imposed single time. I think some of the benefits were/are: I learned a good bit about myself and how to take responsibility for myself even amid bad behaviour of another. I'm realising I'm not such a blamer. I know I don't "need" a relationship (which should be obvious, but wasn't for far too long in my life than I care to admit) and instead just eventually "want" a relationship. On a not-so-healthy note: my ego is still a major pain in the ass...I have a penchant for picking project partners..that needs more work.
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