amythan Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I used to be the greatest girl ever. The one who was cute, sweet, sexy, smart and funny. He was contacting me on a daily basis and every time we went out together it was clear that we liked each other very much. I am not the kind of person who thinks everyone is into her but honestly, I was not being pretentious thinking he was really interested. Even more this situation lasted for months so I thought that his interest was sincere. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. One day we went out, we slept together and from this day everything changed. I saw nothing wrong in sleeping with him, we know each other for years and the situation was progressing, it seemed just right. Maybe stupid movement. I am fully aware about the potential difficulties of a relationship – this is a different topic but this would be very difficult. Anyway I was ready to take the risk but he said to keep it casual. He continued to contacted me but not as frequently as he used to do. He is not silly as he used to be and many of his comments became sexual ones. Do not get me wrong, I am not prudish but I feel like this is my only asset. I went from the special girl to spend quality time with (his words) to the booty call. I have never hidden I like him. I am not pursuing him in sense that I do not text him all the time or nothing crazy but I always reply and everyone can see I am happy when I am with him. And the weird thing is he also seems to be happy with me. When did I screw up everything ? I cannot help to think I did something wrong. Or maybe he never liked me. Or he thinks I am just easy and not worth it. I feel stupid and naïve, for me he was not a random guy and clearly I was just a random girl. I cannot believe I misunderstood everything during months ...
Author amythan Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 I know this can sound very stupid but for some reason it makes more sad than it should. I still wonder if it is my fault or if it is just possible to put so much effort just to have sex. If he just lost interest or he never had it. Also he is my friend and he knows i like him, how can someone take advantage of this situation without any second thought? Or maybe he is just fine and these are just my insecurities talking ... Well, no need to say that i never brought this issue with him.
MisUnderstanding Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 When did I screw up everything ? I cannot help to think I did something wrong. Or maybe he never liked me. Or he thinks I am just easy and not worth it. I feel stupid and naïve, for me he was not a random guy and clearly I was just a random girl. I cannot believe I misunderstood everything during months ... Why do you think it's you who did anything wrong? Even if we pretend that he never knew you liked him, you brought it up in a conversation after you had sex, he clearly participated in that conversation since he rejected your proposal about having a relationship. It looks like he only wanted to be your friend, one day he got horny and slept with you. Now he thinks he can sleep with you any time he wants with no strings attached, but since he knows you want a relationship he doesn't want to hang out with you not to give you any ideas. You probably should've brought up the relationship conversation earlier, before you had sex. But now the only thing I would do is talk to him again, tell him that you either make it official or go separate ways. He'll probably choose the latter but at least you won't have to pretend that you're cool with that. There are plenty of guys out there who want a relationship, the door is open.
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I know this can sound very stupid but for some reason it makes more sad than it should. I still wonder if it is my fault or if it is just possible to put so much effort just to have sex. If he just lost interest or he never had it. Also he is my friend and he knows i like him, how can someone take advantage of this situation without any second thought? Or maybe he is just fine and these are just my insecurities talking ... Well, no need to say that i never brought this issue with him. Maybe he was really into you, but the sex wasn't very good. I've had that happen before.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I used to be the greatest girl ever... I'd like to meet the new title-holder. Do you have her contact info?
SilentVoice Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I'd like to meet the new title-holder. Do you have her contact info? You can contact me at 555-0000.lol Anyway I think you should just leave him alone. I think what MisUnderstanding said is dead on. All the best.
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