Razgriez Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Just to give you guys some back story.OK, so i met this girl over a dating site, and we talked for a little while over aim. then because of our schedules, she just gave me her number and we started texting. Then, like the next day, she asks me if she can add me as a friend on facebook. To all of these things i said yes. I'm not a very private person so none of this bothered me. We went on a few dates, and I found it very odd that she likes a lot of the same things that i like. Horror movies, electronica music (not my favorite but i do enjoy it), video games, etc. On paper, and through texts, she seems to be perfect. BUT, i'm really starting to feel like she only likes the things i like, because i showed interest in her, and maybe she just doesn't want to be alone. I can't think of anyone that would just want to be alone, but i feel like she just tries or pretends to like the things i do so she can be with me. Well this is where things get tricky. So i kissed her first, something like our 3-4th date, and it wasnt what i thought it would be. It was romantic, or slow, but instead very lustful. Maybe 2 days after that we had sex, and as much as i'm trying to slow us down, we have continued to have sex (i am only human). Now, we are officially dating, and i really feel like her and I are just going through the motions. I don't really feel a spark between us and I truly want there to be one. I feel like right now, I'm just with her just because, and she is only with me because she doesn't want to be alone. Also, she doesn't initiate conversation, and if i ask her what she would like to do, she always says that she doesn't know. Almost like she has no wants or needs. Very much like being just a shell and just going with the flow. I don't want to feel like this but I can't help it. ANYWAY, my question is this. Should i wait it out a few months, see if she comes out of her shell, and risk breaking her heart really bad. Or should i end it now because I really don't feel a spark between us. Honestly I'm a very nice guy, plenty sensitive, and can normally find beauty or something i love about someone fairly easy, but i just don't see her and i working unless she starts to develop an opinion of her own. What makes me feel worse about the situation, is that i am horribly selective about who i date, let alone who i have sex with ( 3 partners). Because we have had sex, i feel like this will make things even harder on her. What do you guys think i should do?
Author Razgriez Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 oh, i forgot to point this out, but when we text or talk over some form of electronic media, we have great conversations. I have talked with her for 6 hours before over aim and really enjoyed it. It's only when we are face to face, does she never have anything to say or have no concrete thoughts. I really can only attribute this to being shy. I am a very shy person as well, but i have to constantly throw myself out of my comfort zone so i can live my life. I understand that could be hard for her, but I can't date her if we can only talk with text messages :\
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