counterman Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 I was wondering whether dating had any correlation with the social group you belong do? Are you forever destined to date only those people who belong in similar social groups? Reason I ask is that I tend to attract girls who are smart and focused on their studies, those who do not have as active a social life as some most other girls in their early 20s. I am talking about hitting the clubs, going to bars, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with girls who do not do that... but I just find their too conservative for my liking. Having been around those other girls before, I must say I prefer those girls who are out there having "fun". It just gets me going. I find I lose interest in a studious, more conservative girl very quickly. Their conservative nature really unsettles me because I like girls who like taking risks and just doing things spontaneously. As for myself, I do want to look after my studies and career. I am very driven in that sense. My social life isn't as active as I would like to be and this has been due to the fact that I have been with the wrong group of friends since... forever. They are more introverted. I see myself as always the decision maker... the guy who is more leaning towards doing something new and different rather than being reluctant. However, I don't see my social situation dramatically changing soon but I would like to see it change. As a side question, what would be a good way to start changing that? With social circles already formed and whatnot. One thing I need to mention is that I give off the impression of a very smart and studious person, as girls have mentioned. I don't know if that's a turn on or a turn off for some girls but that's just me. If a girl finds it as a dealbreaker, than I wouldn't bother with her. So, for those who have decided not to go through too much with that "college" experience, i.e. clubbing, parties, drink ups, etc, how has it turned out for you? Would you recommend that I start getting more involved with these them? I feel an urge too but something is holding me back. I know it tends to get my adrenaline going and plays to my extroverted side but I do feel a bit empty afterwards. Also, would dating be okay with a socially active girl if you're use to hanging around more conservative people? The thing is, I can go out with any girl and we will both have a great time... the kind of fun we both would want to have. However, giving the impression that I am "studious", might make them reluctant to date me. That's all and well fine as it really depends on their interest in who I am, but when it comes to who they think I am initially before they even get to know me, it's kind of hard to move forward from that. I am a smart guy but there's more to be than that. I know it's ironic how I want to date girls who are more outgoing than me when I am not outgoing, so to speak, myself but they're just the ones I am attracted to.
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