Seamless74 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Very strange situation... getting cross trained at work and was put in a new hire class of about 14 people one of which is a fairly cute girl. At first wasnt really interested but you know i see her everyday so its right there in my face plus we seem to have good rapport in a fun and flirty way so theres really no way to stop talking so far so good... Early on in the class which is about a month long i kinda started kicking the tires seeing what was up being pretty indirect for obvious reasons and although it took awhile found out she has a live in boyfriend... Boyfriend no problem but live in boyfriend usually a big red flag for me,,, So i decided it might be best to back off and kinda not pursue in other words still kinda sexually intersted but i would have to make her put in work to come after me as opposed to chasing her (not really much of a chaser anyway) so I back off... Enter Jason,,,, another guy in the class about the same age (the exact actually, as i found out last night) as me,, were 36 shes 28.. I began to notice as I backed away he promptly ramped up his efforts.. So when i withdrew and pursued active disinterest he would be spending time with her by that i mean I usually talk to her on smoke breaks on the patio and he constantly text messages over the computer during class and recently theyve started to go to lunch everyday... I know although we both wont admit it hes wondering what shes doing with me and I wonder what shes doing with him... because its about an even split of time... Now by now i Know what your thinking but heres where it gets weird..As were leaving class friday to go home I usually walk out first but she times it perfectly and comes up right next to me gives me a high five and says "hey you wanna go get some beers" I was like "you serious" she was and recommended a place right down the street kind of a dive bar pool hall type thing.. we went to the back patio at work to have a smoke before we left because she knows i dont smoke in the car... Maybe heres where i messed up a little First off I didnt know where the bar was (dont keep up with hole in the walls) and i was a little nervous... But either way while were out there she says let me call Jason and see if he wants to go...??? of course he does.. That really threw me big time I mean if I would of known that AHEAD of time I wouldnt have gone but since he knew i was going before he was invited I thought if i backed out Id lose face or whatever so I went... mistake ??? I dunno... Anyway were at the bar I was the last to arrive.. All this took place over 4 or 5 beers.. Real strange situation I mean were all getting along famously.. But whenever one of us would leave to go to the bathroom it got weird... Like when she left... I would be like "Jason this is kinda weird I mean are you trying to get with her"? to which he adamantly replied yes... and Im like "man how pissed do you think her boyfriend would be if he saw her here"... Jasons like "man theres alot of things he would be mad about and then went on to say she was at his house last night and put her head on his shoulder or some ****... ?? but nothing really happened"... I told him "well man I feel weird about this I mean Im not really tryin to get with her I mean shes really not that hot and shes getting waayy too much attention" (kinda a lie about the not really trying part"... Then of course when he went to the bathroom.. Id look at her and be like " This is weird I mean what am I doing here if you two are like together or something"... to which she would adamantly reply "Jason knows my situation I HAVE A BOYFRIEND"... who knows what the hell they said when I was gone lol... Finally I decide to eject first ask for my tab... the waitress bring both tabs (I thought it was just gonna be mine so they could stay if they wanted) I was curious if they would.. notice there were only two tabs so in other words he she was drinking on him.. As we leave i crack a couple jokes and just go straight to my car.. we all do at first anyway.. but as im standing next to my car having a smoke before the drive home... I notice he goes up to her car window half cracked and they have a real quick exchange and she speeds of like a bat outta hell... Overall thoughout the whole interaction I would say her eyes were on me 70% of the time we touced 2 or 3 times they never did once.. And I thought i dealt with a really awkward situation very well.. But in closing what is this chick doing??? I was laughing my ass off the whole way home I mean i dont know she coulda been spread eagle on his bed 15 minutes from when we left but just the flat out game that chick was running was amazing.... Any thoughts both genders welcome..
FryFish Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 You should bang her... but let her BF know when you are done.
Author Seamless74 Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 cmon ladies in particular... I know some of you have done this feedback app...
that girl Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Boyfriend no problem but live in boyfriend usually a big red flag for me This says so much about you. It sounds like you and Jason could both be misreading things. She could just be trying to be friendly. Going out with two guys suggests it is a friend thing rather than a date thing. As for the drinks, lots of guys will just offer to buy a woman drinks. It doesn't mean they're having sex.
Author Seamless74 Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 ok THATGIRLl.... curious what does This says so much about you. mean imma assume that means im a dirtball sleazebag or something to that effect. Id have to differ in the respect alot of wonderful healthy relationships the world over begin when either or both parties are already with someone else..(this would not be one of those however) But your mos def entitled to your opinion respect given... But are you telling me that you believe a girl initiating a meet up with two single guys one obviously pining for her affections the other myself giving subtle signs of being open to a physical relationship.. you think thats acceptable behavior given her situation??? Further do you believe her going to lunch everyday with said Jason as well as according to him actually going over to his house at night alone is acceptable behavior as well.... I would have to beg to differ on almost every single count... and no buying a girl anything especially when she sets up the encounter is not friendly its trying to curry favor... It was a long post true but i think your missing some here..
redmelon Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 what is she doing? sounds like she is soaking up attention, drinking free beer, and probably eating free lunch. Seriously, she hasn't done anything that seems overtly manipulative, and has repeated many times now that she has a boyfriend. You and Jason should probably have your little man competition over something else.
Pfiend101 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 This thread just made me realize something about this girl I was seeing. Shes an attention whore. I'd move on. Plus you dont want to **** where you eat. So to speak......
michaelc82 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Dudes, words from the wise.. Stay away from this chick.. I just broke up with my ex, we met in a similar situation. dated for a year a half and she lived with me. Next thing I know I find out she's out having drinks with random guys without me, and voila, she runs away with one of them. Oh forgot to mention I work with her as well. What ever you do, DO NOT **** WHERE YOU EAT so to speak. If anything goes south, which it will with this attention seeking, co-dependent whore.. You're in for a **** time at work. Take my warning, there's way better girls out there than this chicken head.
that girl Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 mean imma assume that means im a dirtball sleazebag or something to that effect. Id have to differ in the respect alot of wonderful healthy relationships the world over begin when either or both parties are already with someone else..(this would not be one of those however) It is sleazy. If she goes for it, she's obviously sleazy too, but right now you and Jason are the ones who look sketch. But are you telling me that you believe a girl initiating a meet up with two single guys one obviously pining for her affections the other myself giving subtle signs of being open to a physical relationship.. you think thats acceptable behavior given her situation??? I think you're all in a class together, it isn't like she picked you up on the street. She might not be thinking of either of you sexually. Or maybe she is. But nothing in your post points one way or another. Further do you believe her going to lunch everyday with said Jason Not a big deal necessarily. as well as according to him actually going over to his house at night alone is acceptable behavior as well.... Much more sketchy, but I don't really know the context. and no buying a girl anything especially when she sets up the encounter is not friendly its trying to curry favor... Sure, buying someone something is trying to curry favor. But her drinks could have been on the other guy's tab because she treated him to lunch or because she mentioned money was tight. I've seen guys who are co-workers fight over who paid the check. I've had guys buy me a drink, wish me a good evening and wander off. I don't take it that seriously. Maybe this girl is an attention whore, maybe she's just naive, maybe there is stuff going on you don't know about. But you're still the guy who hits on taken women. You don't have the right to get all judgemental.
Author Seamless74 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 (edited) Hey THATGIRL first off app the feedback... Much more sketchy, but I don't really know the context. now this worries me about women i mean seriously what other context do you need.. Thats flat out wholistically inappropriate for her is she was in a satisfying commited realtionship.. Hey you could be totally right and although id didnt think i was being judgemental if i came off that way well u know i digress... But you must know as well that im not hitting on her... Im just talking to her it would have to be her decision all down the line... As a guy all you can do is put it out there its much better to have the women hit on you... and I would have to agree with alot of the other male posters from what ive gathered shes definately an attention whore.. but hey were all a whore for something.. Yeah the work thing is always a bad idea i know its just where we work at theres not alot of time for that type of thing you hardly talk to anyone and plus are schedules are gonna be different Finally today monday the first workday since the drinks Friday night she didnt go to lunch with him and they hardly even talked.. so im thinking he might have overplayed his hand and been too aggressive friday night... Which is what i originally believed... Edited October 4, 2010 by Seamless74
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