anne1707 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 So you think you would be entitled to steal a car if its left unlocked and the key is inside? I find it insulting to be asked that question. The answer is ofcourse no. Now you answer my question.
Angel1111 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I used to talk extensively to a psycholigist for hiring purposes and team management. He once said something about a woman I had recently hired. He said that when he sees a woman with super-bleached blonde hair, he instantly thinks that she's insecure and needs attention. I thought that was interesting. I'm not saying it's true but I was surprised at his view.
Mad Max Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 The answers for both are the same. Is it right? Absolutely not. Should one be surprised if it does happen? Again, absolutely not. If you don't want your car stolen, lock it up. If you don't want unwanted attention from guys, dress more conservatively.
carhill Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 He said that when he sees a woman with super-bleached blonde hair, he instantly thinks that she's insecure and needs attention. Even as a psychologist, he's asserting his socialization. Not having received that socialization, I have no such opinion. Nature makes us men but nuture forms a good portion of our perspectives on things. I can have a unique perspective, on hair color anyway, being married to a professional colorist for ten years. It's simply a non-issue. Women didn't 'change' in my view just because my ex changed their hair color or weaved them differently. Other men's opinions would be unique to them. Big world, lots of opinion..
BWLoca Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Gotta agree. I know how to dress when I want a lot of attention. Some people are wired differently and think they have a right to grab at a woman just because she's dressed a certain way. Knowing that information, I shy away from showing a lot of skin. There are some situations, Mardi Gras for example, where it doesn't matter if you're in sweats...
anne1707 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Yeah and on the other hand you think its not insulting to be asked whether I think rape is okay. Of course the answer is 'no'. Regardless whether a woman dresses provocatively, it is still a crime and wrong to rape her just like it is still a crime and wrong to steal an unlocked car. But it is in the best interest of the woman or the car's owner to make sure their own safety is not unnecessarily jeopardized due to naive personal belief. I was not after insulting anybody I just wanted to highlight the fact that decent man can apply self-control and that a woman should be able to dress as she chooses I remember years ago reading a story about a rape trial where the victim (who the judge agreed had been raped), was concluded by that same judge of causing grievous bodily harm to the rapist and therefore deserving a criminal record because she stabbed the rapist with a penkinfe she was carrying (after a day working in a farm and therefore needed for her work) during the attach I hate the judicial system at times. I should add that I find it just as bad that men accused of rape are named before verdict.
porter218 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 and on the other hand, she could be looking for a superficial trashy dude to get serious with... I mean, that could very well be what she wants. Ya never know.
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