kickintheaz Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 so a colleague of mine has a 'friend' who is single and is getting sick of meeting weirdos and nut jobs from online dating.. I was given her number and we've chatted a few times during the week.... she''s good looking, intelligent, good job, funny, sarcastic, a good age! (28, I'm 33) my type all round.. (pre meeting anyway) she actually seems to WANT a relationship... so all is good so far... I get a txt this morn, NEVER have I got one of these since I started this dating 'game' and perhaps those of you who are used to (or somewhat successful at) multi dating may have insights as to next step... basically she said she wanted to be up front, cos we're getting on, I seem 'sound' (and pretty hot!) and the fact we have a mutual friend...her txt stated that: she is due to 'go on a 3rd date with a guy, its going well, but as you know that doesn't mean it will continue to'... this was 10.30 am this morn (its after midnight now).. I would say she txtd pretty much the whole day then up until an hour ago... so, am I confused? slightly!.. mutual friend thinks we'll be great together, we both get a good vibe from each other, granted even when we first talked during the week we couldn't arrange a date as we're both pretty busy til closer to next weekend.. then she drops this on me about heading into a 3rd date, and deffo not being naiive here, she probably is just keeping her options open... but how do I proceed now?? Do I try get a date now in the hope a meeting will generate more interest from her or do I wait and see how she gets on on her own dates... There are other women I could focus on, but I guess having been constantly rejected by girls the last few months its nice to know someone has a bit of interest.. and nope, I don't wanna sit by the phone waiting and hoping... (as some of you know I've done enough of that in the last few years!).. as I type this I probably am coming to the conclusion, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I guess that I should keep moving on? date the other girls? and if this one calls see where life is at then?? thanks folks for your thoughts.. kick..
EasyHeart Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Three dates is nothing. If she wanted you to back off, she'd have told you she's seeing someone else and just wants to be "friends". Your job now is to rescue her from whatever worthless loser she's dated three times. Shine up your shoes and go get that girl! GAME ON!!!!
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 but how do I proceed now?? Do I try get a date now in the hope a meeting will generate more interest from her or do I wait and see how she gets on on her own dates... There are other women I could focus on, but I guess having been constantly rejected by girls the last few months its nice to know someone has a bit of interest.. and nope, I don't wanna sit by the phone waiting and hoping... (as some of you know I've done enough of that in the last few years!).. as I type this I probably am coming to the conclusion, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I guess that I should keep moving on? date the other girls? and if this one calls see where life is at then?? thanks folks for your thoughts.. kick.. She's honest! Go for it! She would not encourage you if she didnt' see something. Maybe this 3rd date turns out fantastic and your done for... then again maybe not. Sure date other girls... but don't throw this one away. She is open, if not tactful.
AverageJoe Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Your job now is to rescue her from whatever worthless loser she's dated three times. Shine up your shoes and go get that girl! GAME ON!!!! This. (other than than the rescue part) My next txt to her after the mention of a third date, would have been. Drop that loser date and come hang out with me! I have done this before and it has worked more times than not.
Author kickintheaz Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 well, I didn't wanna let the thread 'die' without taking the time to thank you guys for taking the time to input.. much much appreciated!! So, I called her saturday, whats a guy to lose right?? Within 20 mins we'd changed our own plans in order to meet on Sunday, we went to the zoo and dinner and I dropped her home (no invite in, thats ok as there was plenty of kissing, flirting, handholding etc).. by the time I got home myself I called her to tell her same and we spent another 2hours on the phone.. we're doing dinner and movies this friday.. I probably broke every first date rule by having a first date that didn't involve alcohol and yet ended up being over 8 hours long!... however we both agreed 'game playing' isn't what we do, if we wanna talk we'll talk, if we wanna text we text.. its pretty evident we like each other so we're gonna go with how we feel and ya know what, thats just refreshing.. and what struck me was, how easy the day was.. how we simply went from a nervous kiss on the cheek and hug to having a laugh like I've not known in months, to comfortably walking round sharing a bag of chips, handholding and kissing as if we have known each other all our lives.. it just felt.... right... and that makes me Having spent so long at the dating game, making sure I knew the etiquette (and failing at the etiquette btw!), getting hopes raised and dashed and then not having any hope bar maybe a fun cup of coffee or a few drinks.. to this.. THIS is what I thought dating would be.. and finally finally it is.. I'm not saying this is the one I'll end up with for all eternity but I do believe we'll end up sharing some special moments together.. so thank you.. if I'd listened to myself and not posted I'd be trawling a dating website now or making plans to goto a club this weekend looking for someone, and yet a few small words of encouragement here have opened up, potentially, a whole new world for me! (I'm allowing myself a wee bit of optimistic hope...) so again, Thank You!..
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