michaelc82 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 (edited) Hey all! So i've been posting in the break up section the last month or so.. I was definitely feeling down n' out..My girlfriend moved out of my house, and it was overall a messy breakup with me finding out she was cheating on me.. Just went on a date last night for the first time since the break up 2 months ago.. And I must say, this girl was amazing! I met her on an online dating site, and i just invited her out for dinner... Not the most creative first date situation, but it was nice to just sit down, chat and eat really good food. I'm 28, she's 26, and she felt pretty mature for her age. We talked the entire time, no awkward silence at all, and it felt pretty comfortable. A little bit of sparks flying, i made her laugh, and we looked into each others eyes the entire time, and ended up having a 2 1/2 hour dinner. We ended the date with a hug, and I asked her out again before she left and we agreed to go on a second date, and that I would call her when I got back from a work trip which was I was originally supposed to leave on Saturday. Well my work trip has moved to Wednesday next week now, and I want to see her again! I actually am really into this girl, and I'm pretty darn picky! I txt'ed her last night telling her I had a great evening with her and she replied first thing in the morning 6:30am telling me the same, and thanked me for the delicious dinner. I want to see her again before I leave wednesday! Should I call her today and plan something for sunday? Would ideally like to do something in the day time with her this time.. Let me know what you think! I haven't really dated in a LONG time, and don't want to blow it by jumping in too fast..But I definitely want her to know that I'm interested in her. Ladies would love to hear your input on this! Edited October 1, 2010 by michaelc82
Tripp1 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Hey man, sounds awesome! I get the vibe that she is into you from that text. Don't seem too eager just yet. But I wouldn't wait too long, because if she is into you like I think, then she is waiting for your call/text. Definitely the next move is to call. I feel that when you are into a girl and you're past the first date, texting shouldn't be as intense when asking them out. This shows them that you are more genuinely interested and want to actually talk to them. I would wait just another day or two and then call her and let her know you want to see her again. Don't wait longer than that. You'll be good. Tripp
Author michaelc82 Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 So, I called her yesterday evening to ask her out for brunch and to check out an art exhibit for date #2.. She replied back that she had to work all day sunday, but thanked me for the invite.. The catch is I'm leaving on a work trip to asia on wednesday for a couple weeks and I really wanted to see her before i left! She know's I don't leave till wednesday, if she was really interested she would have counter offered a different day correct? When we finished the first date I told her I would call her when i was back from hong kong.. Should i just wait a couple weeks till i get back and give her a call? I hate to be playing any games, i usualy just follow how i feel towards someone and contact them when i feel like it.
Tripp1 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Can you explain more about how this call went down? Did she say at the least that she was excited to see you when you got back? Anything like that? Unfortunately, it sounds like she may not be as interested in you as we thought. I think she would have proposed another time to hang out and that you have to drop this for now. Don't contact her anymore until you get back from your trip. See if she contacts you before then and that will be a definite sign that she is into you. For now, contact her when you get back.
Author michaelc82 Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 Hey Tripp, I called her and left a message.. She txt'ed me an hour back, "Thanks for the invite but I'm working that event all weekend. Have fun!" I thought she was only working Saturday, but just saw that it is actually a two day event.. No biggy.. I think you're right though... If I don't hear from her before I leave, I'll just give her a call when I get back into town in a couple weeks. I just feel that if I don't contact her before I get back it might be a little too long (2 weeks)? Was thinking of maybe making plans while I was over there? Ahhh sh*tty timing on my part!
Tripp1 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 You're back in the dating scene. This kind of stuff is going to happen all the time. Just remember not to get too overworked because for the next however long, girls will be coming in and out of your life. Don't fret if this ONE doesn't work out. I promise you will meet another just as awesome! Definitely don't contact her until you get back. Two weeks is a long time, but you don't want to come off too needy by getting in touch with her so many times, when in fact, you just met her. When you get back, let her know you've been back in town for a few days and would wanna hang out again. If she's not into it. Well, her loss, but it's not over yet... Good luck! Tripp
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