headfirst Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 My boyfriend was looking for a new job so I told him that I could probably help with him getting one where i work. I asked my regional manager and he told me to get him to hand his resume it to him. I took my bfs resume and handed it in to my regional manager and sent him an email reminding him about it. Anyways yesterday he had an interview and got the job. My bf didn't really thank me even though I pretty much played a big part in getting him the job. He made a status about it on fb and 'liked' everyones congratulations messages but not mine. I feel a bit annoyed about it. Should I say anything?
Awesome Username Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 My boyfriend was looking for a new job so I told him that I could probably help with him getting one where i work. I asked my regional manager and he told me to get him to hand his resume it to him. I took my bfs resume and handed it in to my regional manager and sent him an email reminding him about it. Anyways yesterday he had an interview and got the job. My bf didn't really thank me even though I pretty much played a big part in getting him the job. He made a status about it on fb and 'liked' everyones congratulations messages but not mine. I feel a bit annoyed about it. Should I say anything? No, just make him pay for dinner! Honestly, guys feel bad when they think that a girl had to help them with something like getting a job. Don't say anything about it and be proud of him. Men have fragile egos. That's what I would do.
jerbear Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I like AU's response. Guys don't like the idea of someone else helping them get a job.
leftfordead2 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Facebook: The main cause in relationship troubles these days.
JessaL Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 AU is probably right, but I would also be annoyed about that. I'm so sick of rude and inconsiderate guys, and of having to baby them. You probably shouldn't say anything, but that probably wouldn't stop me.
sweetjasmine Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Guys don't like the idea of someone else helping them get a job. Then he can turn the offer down and go find another job by himself, right? I don't think it's a big deal, but it is pretty rude to not even say, "thanks," regardless of how fragile your ego might be. It's common courtesy to send thank you notes to acquaintances and other professionals who help you network, so why is it too difficult to say "thanks" to your own partner for giving you a hand?
jerbear Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Then he can turn the offer down and go find another job by himself, right? He can but he needs a job. Hence he won't.
Rorschach Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I'm confused, did you do it for adoring fans on facebook or did you do it because he's your boyfriend and you wanted to help?
Star Gazer Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I'm confused, did you do it for adoring fans on facebook or did you do it because he's your boyfriend and you wanted to help? This is surprising coming from you. You're totally missing the point. He thanked everyone who congratulated him except the very person who helped land him the job...and that person happens to be his girlfriend. I'd be a little irked. Ego or not, she deserves some form of appreciation for what she did.
ComeUndone Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I wouldn't care too much what happened on FB, but would be a little hurt he hadn't thanked me period. Yeah maybe it's difficult for him to swallow the fact that his gf got him the job rather than him finding one on his own, but still... I would want a thank you or some sort of recognition.
Star Gazer Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I wouldn't care too much what happened on FB, but would be a little hurt he hadn't thanked me period. Yeah maybe it's difficult for him to swallow the fact that his gf got him the job rather than him finding one on his own, but still... I would want a thank you or some sort of recognition. Exactly how I'd feel.
VeveCakes Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I hate that! I have gotten about 3 of my friends jobs and not one of thanked me. Very rude imo.
make me believe Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 AU is probably right, but I would also be annoyed about that. I'm so sick of rude and inconsiderate guys, and of having to baby them. Seriously! If this is some sort of ego thing, her boyfriend needs to freakin grow up. OP, I would be super annoyed too. It's very rude of him not to express some sort of appreciation for your efforts. And the FB thing? I would ask him about that straight up because it seems really strange to me.
SecretSquirrel Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 And the FB thing? I would ask him about that straight up because it seems really strange to me. It says P/A, loud and clear. What kind of person would be like that over something good
Angel1111 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I would give it a few days and see if he says something to you about it. If he doesn't, then bring it up to him. It seems like a small thing but his lack of gratitude is very rude and dismissive. If you let it go, it sends him the message that it's ok to treat you this way. This isn't a dealbreaker but he needs to understand that you're not into a partner who can't even say a simple thank you.
Rorschach Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 This is surprising coming from you. You're totally missing the point. He thanked everyone who congratulated him except the very person who helped land him the job...and that person happens to be his girlfriend. I'd be a little irked. Ego or not, she deserves some form of appreciation for what she did. Oh I agree, the guy is definitely being a jerk. But all the same you don't do these things for the thanks. For instance when I loan friends money, in my mind it's a gift and I never expect to see it again. Now are they being jerks if they don't repay it? Yes. But I didn't give it with them repaying it in mind, I gave it to them to help them and because I was able to. When you help somebody out should do it out of a desire to help them, if they don't thank you afterwards it speaks ill of their character but I wouldn't get too upset about it.
brainygirl Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I'd be a little miffed. But how is he otherwise? Is he someone who thanks people in person? Is he emotive at all?
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