Rooooob Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I met this really great girl a few weeks back. We really connected on a lot of different levels, and I ended up with her phone number. I called her a few days later and we chatted for about an hour or so. During the conversation, she informed me that she split up with her ex of 3 1/2 years THAT MORNING (of the day that we met). I myself split with my ex-fiancee about a month and a half ago, but what I really wanna ask the ladies of LS is how should I handle this? Her ex was apparently an addict of cocaine, and she did tell me that she still loves him (Which of course is understandable, I myself do still love my ex-fiancee of 7-years, but just in a different way). So talk everyday, but its really never for that long, at all. My thinking is that its still really fresh, so she's probably dealing with a lot of emotions, right? How do you think I should handle this situation? I don't wanna be the smothering "Why haven't you called me" guy. I know I should just sit back and let her come to me when she's ready, but thats easier said than done.
Star Gazer Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Doesn't sound like either one of you are ready/capable to date right now, given how recent your respective breakups are. I'd honestly just move on, and chalk it up to bad timing.
Author Rooooob Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Doesn't sound like either one of you are ready/capable to date right now, given how recent your respective breakups are. I'd honestly just move on, and chalk it up to bad timing. This is the advice that I was afraid of getting. Mostly because its what I've been thinking, too. I don't want this to be just some rebound type relationship. I'm too old (26) to be toying with other peoples emotions.
Allisha Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Doesn't sound like either one of you are ready/capable to date right now, given how recent your respective breakups are. I'd honestly just move on, and chalk it up to bad timing. And once again, I completely agree. This is the advice that I was afraid of getting. Mostly because its what I've been thinking, too. I don't want this to be just some rebound type relationship. I'm too old (26) to be toying with other peoples emotions. Sadly, this is exactly what it will be if you pursue this. It won't do either of you any good in the long run. Good luck in getting over everything
Author Rooooob Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Sadly, this is exactly what it will be if you pursue this. It won't do either of you any good in the long run. Good luck in getting over everything Again....not exactly the stuff that I wanted to hear. But thanks to both of you for taking a few minutes to respond. As hard as it may be, I'll just have to try to distance myself from her. It's too bad. Maybe if the situation was different...
CLC2008 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I met this really great girl a few weeks back. We really connected on a lot of different levels, and I ended up with her phone number. I called her a few days later and we chatted for about an hour or so. During the conversation, she informed me that she split up with her ex of 3 1/2 years THAT MORNING (of the day that we met). I myself split with my ex-fiancee about a month and a half ago, but what I really wanna ask the ladies of LS is how should I handle this? Her ex was apparently an addict of cocaine, and she did tell me that she still loves him (Which of course is understandable, I myself do still love my ex-fiancee of 7-years, but just in a different way). So talk everyday, but its really never for that long, at all. My thinking is that its still really fresh, so she's probably dealing with a lot of emotions, right? How do you think I should handle this situation? I don't wanna be the smothering "Why haven't you called me" guy. I know I should just sit back and let her come to me when she's ready, but thats easier said than done. Her and her ex breaking up the same exact day she met you? Rebound.
Awesome Username Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Not only is it bad timing and a rebound, but it's a potentially dangerous situation for you. If her new ex sees her less than a week later with another guy, and he's a coke head, you might find yourself in some trouble. If it's meant to be, it'll happen in the future. Too much drama right now!
Author Rooooob Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 (edited) Not only is it bad timing and a rebound, but it's a potentially dangerous situation for you. If her new ex sees her less than a week later with another guy, and he's a coke head, you might find yourself in some trouble. If it's meant to be, it'll happen in the future. Too much drama right now! That's an excellent point. What helps, though is that we live in different cities. She's told me that she checked out of the relationship a long time ago. That she was extremely unhappy. But I know what its like being the "Dumpee". Just because she feels that way, doesn't mean he does, too. Edited September 30, 2010 by Rooooob
Seamless74 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I think the best way to handle this situation is the same way you should handle every situation with a woman talk to another hot woman and try to get her number....
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