curiousgirl Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I talked to this guy a while online and we finally met. Its nothing serious, but just casual dating. I found out he likes to go on web cam sites. I don't know exactly what is doing on there but it kind of bugs me. I found this one site in particular and it looked more like a sex site. He has a profile on there, and I don't think he realizes it's visible to the public. There is an area on the profile where other members can leave comments, or live chat when he is on web cam. I noticed there was one comment, and it said "I"m sorry, my chat doesn't work". I clicked on the screen name and it was this bisexual guy in another country. Should I make anything of this? Does it sound like he was actually talking to another guy? I know its bad enough he is on this site, but was trying not to make a big deal out of it. I am now wondering if he talks to bi guys or if he is bi curious or some crap.
Alma Mobley Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 How did you find this out? Did he tell you? Even if he did, how did you find his profile? Not judging if you snooped, just wondering how the revelation came about.
Allisha Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 (edited) I think I know what site the OP is talking about - one of my friends was in a similar situation to you. Bascially, the "performers" on these websites have live webcam chats. Then, members of the site pay these performers for private shows, in which they, you know... perform. Your post isn't completely clear, so.. If YOUR guy is a performer on this site, then chances are he's straight, pretending to be gay/bi in order to attract more "business", if you get what I mean. However, if YOUR guy is the one talking to these male performers, I'd say he was confused, bisexual or gay. Dealing with things like this all comes down to personal boundaries, so it's difficult to give advice. My friend couldn't deal with it... but something tells me if you could, you wouldn't be on this forum asking about it, which may be all you need to know. Edited September 30, 2010 by Allisha
Author curiousgirl Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 How did you find this out? Did he tell you? Even if he did, how did you find his profile? Not judging if you snooped, just wondering how the revelation came about. He turns his cam on often and he asks me to. I then typed in his id in the search bar and somehow stumbled upon a few sites, and one seemed pretty bad to me. It was more like just sex. I know he doesn't do this for money, but he goes on cam because it had previous broadcast photos of him just sitting or laying there. I don't know what the heck is doing or if he shows anything sexual himself. I don't want to tell the name of the site. This guy who left the comment, I don't know if he does it for money either. The guy I'm dating. There was a questionnaire on his profile and he made it clear he is just there for girls. I just wonder why the guy would be saying "sorry my chat doesn't work". it sounds like he was chatting.
Rooooob Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Yeah, something isn't right with that whole picture....you're right for being concerned.
Alma Mobley Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Curious, This doesn't sound like a man you should become seriously involved with unless you are okay with this kind of stuff. I asked how you knew because that would affect how you approach him. If you really want to know, tell him you searched his ID out of curiosity and found these sites and that what you found concerns you. Maybe he can answer your questions.
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