curlygirl40 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 So here's my dilemma I took my profile down on match until my divorce is final, in about a few weeks. I've been working out consistently for the past year, I would now say (and all of my friends who I have asked agree) that my body type is 'about average'. A few months ago my status on Match was 'currently separated', my body type was 'curvy' and I had no body shots on my profile. There was this one guy who's profile always caught my eye. I e-mailed him or winked (can't remember now), and I got a canned 'sorry, don't think we would be a good match' response. Now I know it's possible the reason he thinks that was because of one of the three things I mentioned above. Some men think curvy is a euphemism for 'overweight' (and I have seen people on this site say they won't contact a girl who posts curvy as a body type even), and with no body shot I couldn't really show what I meant by curvy (my childbearing hips and DD's) And of course maybe he just didn't find me attractive in general. I do have a lot of good pictures up and I got a lot of attention from other men while I had my profile up. So here's my question. Once my divorce is final I'll put my profile back up with 'Divorced' as my relationship status. My body type will be 'about average', and I'll include a tasteful body shot. I would like to contact this guy again, but not sure if I should since he already said 'sorry not a good match'. I was thinking something like 'I just reactivated my profile and your profile caught my eye (again!) so I thought I would say hello'. And leave it at that. I don't want to be silly and say 'hey, I'm divorced and lost weight, see? How do you like me now?'. But wanted to reach out incase it was one of those reasons. What do you all think?? Thanks!
Confusedalways Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Honestly, I'd definitely do it. As many people say to me, it's not like he knows you. He either: A) has no memory of you and likes you this time B) remembers and likes you this time C) sends you another 'no thanks' what's the harm? You've literally got nothing to lose. Honestly I wouldn't even write (again!) because really, maybe you forgot too? Who knows. Just keep it casual-- good luck
Author curlygirl40 Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 Thank you!! I'll give it a shot. In a few weeks.
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