mortensorchid Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 There has been a lot of debate about what makes a "Bad Boy" or even a "Nice Guy" in the pool. I would like to think that in my experience, I can identify after a bit who the "Bad Boys" are. They are typically guys who get into trouble (which can mean the law, alcohol/drugs, be crazy, start a fight or two in public, etc.) and treat women badly. However, think about this. Once we recognize that some guys are, in fact, "Bad Boys", do not automatically assume that just because John Doe over there is not a "Bad Boy" does not mean that he is a "Nice Guy"/"Mr. Right" by default. The so called "Nice Guy"/"Mr. Right" is not always what he seems. He may have it all together (job, grooming, plan for the future, etc.), but look beyond the surface. Of course, you will not know this immediately, but it will come out over time. Watch for condescending comments, strange behaviors, sudden reactions to things, etc. Do not settle for someone because he's rich or because he's handsome or whatever else, look past that and see who he is. It's a crazy world out there, do what's best for you.
Eeyore79 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I can sort of see what you mean - there are some obvious bad boys who you shouldn't get involved with, but there are also a lot of bad boys masquerading as nice guys. For example: my ex had a good education, a professional job, and was handsome, fit, and well groomed... but he was a liar and a cheat.
BookerT Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Errr I think it depends on your definition of a "bad boy". You make it sound like a bad boy is a drug addict or a thug. I work in the finance industry and there's plenty of bad boys or jerks (however you want to define it) that I know who are lawyers and bankers. At the end of the day it's just someone that doesn't really care about the person they're dating and only about themselves.
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 There has been a lot of debate about what makes a "Bad Boy" or even a "Nice Guy" in the pool. I would like to think that in my experience, I can identify after a bit who the "Bad Boys" are. They are typically guys who get into trouble (which can mean the law, alcohol/drugs, be crazy, start a fight or two in public, etc.) and treat women badly. However, think about this. Once we recognize that some guys are, in fact, "Bad Boys", do not automatically assume that just because John Doe over there is not a "Bad Boy" does not mean that he is a "Nice Guy"/"Mr. Right" by default. The so called "Nice Guy"/"Mr. Right" is not always what he seems. He may have it all together (job, grooming, plan for the future, etc.), but look beyond the surface. Of course, you will not know this immediately, but it will come out over time. Watch for condescending comments, strange behaviors, sudden reactions to things, etc. Do not settle for someone because he's rich or because he's handsome or whatever else, look past that and see who he is. It's a crazy world out there, do what's best for you. WHAT??? This makes no sense. ive seen the biggest douchebags have had money and was not nice guys... PERIOD. And women flock to bad boys thinking they can tame him, in some sick pathetic form of control and the same thing that is drawing them about the bad boy will be the same thing that hurts them. Most nice guys will treat a woman good. Fact remains a bad boy will not have a heart of gold no matter how much you as female might want. But i do agree, just because he's good does not mean he's all good. but the same can be said about every man. Every man has flaws reguardless of what their overall characteristics are.
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