thomasthekitty Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Well, here's my story. I started dating this girl two months ago, and we dated for about a month or so. Yes, we had sex and all that fun stuff. She asked me out initially....and we kinda took it slow in the beginning. I knew that she had a fiancee who has been locked up in prison. She told me that she was not going to see him anymore and that she wanted to be with me instead. Then about a month ago, she dropped the bomb. She said that she could not go on lying to me anymore, and that she would reunite with him when he gets out of prison. I told her from the beginning that I do not mess around with another man's girl. So in the meantime we have tried to stay friends, but she keeps dropping hints that he doesn't mean anything to her anymore....that she sees "them" having NO future together and stuff like that. About 2+ weeks ago I had noticed that she even went as far as to take his ring off....a piece of junk jewelry that she was wearing on her finger. This girl and I really get along good together and her 2 year old daughter is just amazing. All 3 of us always have a good time when we are together. But, in the last couple of weeks she has been distancing herself from me....fewer texts and calls. She used to call at least once a day....now it seems like she calls only a couple of times a week at best. I have stepped up a bit and tried to keep the lines of communicate open by calling and texting more. She also seems short on the phone as well, giving the dreaded "one word" answers. I want to drop her a call or text telling her how I still feel about her, but I don't want to seem desperate or needy. We both (after our break-up or whatever you want to call it) texted to one another that we miss being with each other; respectively. Is this girl a flake job, or should I make my move before it's too late. Any advice would be greatly appreciated; especially, from a woman's perspective.
TaraMaiden Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Really? "From a woman's perspective"....? I'm honestly surprised you even need to ask..... Ditch her go No Contact immediately, and beware her other man in prison.... I would suggest that he may well be coming out soon, (what was he in for, d'you know....?) and she's either getting cold feet, or she's just been playing you for a sucker, while she couldn't get it from "sucker-behind-bars".... You think for one moment she's told him about you? You think for one moment she's actually broken up with him - or has any intention of doing so? You think for one moment he will extend his hand and say "so you're the guy who's been looking after my gal while I've been banged up? Put it there bud, thanks a lot!" You need to hightail it out of there, because she's been using you as a soft place to fall, and a phukk-buddy.... This means nothing to her. Not in the way it potentially might have to you....
reservoirdog1 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Who knows if she's a flake or not, but she's probably best avoided. Sucks that you get along so well with her daughter, but that's the way it goes sometimes. I think a good general rule is to avoid dating women who have current/sort-of/doesn't-want-to-date-them-anymore significant others in prison. And the main reason is self-preservation. Think about it: dude's in prison. Meaning he did something bad enough to warrant a prison sentence. And it was probably something involving violence or, at the very least, associates who are capable of violence. And he's been spending his days, for a few months or years, in the company of similarly-inclined individuals and has probably seen and done some stuff you don't want to think about while he's been in there. And a guy like that is probably not going to be terribly pleased to hear about you shtupping his fiancee while he's been behind bars. And he may just decide to look you up, separate your junk from your body, and introduce it to your throat. Or have somebody else take care of that for him, so it can't get traced to him as easily. Just a word to the wise, my friend...
aerogurl87 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Who knows if she's a flake or not, but she's probably best avoided. Sucks that you get along so well with her daughter, but that's the way it goes sometimes. I think a good general rule is to avoid dating women who have current/sort-of/doesn't-want-to-date-them-anymore significant others in prison. And the main reason is self-preservation. Think about it: dude's in prison. Meaning he did something bad enough to warrant a prison sentence. And it was probably something involving violence or, at the very least, associates who are capable of violence. And he's been spending his days, for a few months or years, in the company of similarly-inclined individuals and has probably seen and done some stuff you don't want to think about while he's been in there. And a guy like that is probably not going to be terribly pleased to hear about you shtupping his fiancee while he's been behind bars. And he may just decide to look you up, separate your junk from your body, and introduce it to your throat. Or have somebody else take care of that for him, so it can't get traced to him as easily. Just a word to the wise, my friend... Agreed. Avoid this girl like the plague.
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