irc333 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I was wondering, on dating sites, and I've noticed this VERY often with women (not men all that much) They write up a profile, and there would be comments and phrases on how they "aren't looking, but if the right guy came along, they'd consider it" Or some similar statements like, 'My friends put me up to this, so I dunno, this is my first time...so just trying it out" As if they're ashamed of online dating. Ladies, how many of you are ashamed of online dating, and try to make it sound like you're "not looking" when in fact your actions say otherwise, because just being on a dating site, they'r making themselves out to be a liar" The only real person they're fooling is not the men, but just themselves, so why bother?
flying Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I was wondering, on dating sites, and I've noticed this VERY often with women (not men all that much) They write up a profile, and there would be comments and phrases on how they "aren't looking, but if the right guy came along, they'd consider it" Or some similar statements like, 'My friends put me up to this, so I dunno, this is my first time...so just trying it out" As if they're ashamed of online dating. Ladies, how many of you are ashamed of online dating, and try to make it sound like you're "not looking" when in fact your actions say otherwise, because just being on a dating site, they'r making themselves out to be a liar" The only real person they're fooling is not the men, but just themselves, so why bother? I met my current BF through an online dating site. I'm not ashamed of how we met, but he lied to his family and most of his friends about it. I think a lot of people do this. Since I was searching for men, that's my sample group - and I noticed a LOT of guys would put "my friends put me up to this" and "I'm just trying it out" and so forth. I have no doubt that women do it too. I think it's a generational thing, more than a gender thing. I'm in my 30s, BF is in his 40s. I'm more comfortable with the idea of online dating than he is, and friends of mine in their 20s don't give a second thought to it at all, and talk about it openly.
tincanman99 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 He sounds like he is wrapped too tight. Like meeting someone online is so much worse than say meeting someone in a bar. Frankly I think the bar is worse.
flying Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 He sounds like he is wrapped too tight. Like meeting someone online is so much worse than say meeting someone in a bar. Frankly I think the bar is worse. I totally agree, tincan! I don't really get it. My family/friends know the whole story.
Rxwoman Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 That's an easy one. 1. because it's tends to make a woman seem desperate, or undatable. 2. Men tend to want what others have, or want, so if a women has to resort to online dating... 3. they're afraid the guys will think they are easy.
sanskrit Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 My favorite is the "friends bought me a subscription." I have been the "first internet date" for 7-8 women also, what a hoot. They lie so naturally too that it's disturbing, and always volunteer the lie which makes it worse. I halfway understand lying to a semi-stranger in light of an uncomfortable or inappropriate question, but going out of one's way to volunteer lies? Bleh. Here's the truth of it. Most of them this affects, and this includes certain females in male bodies too, can't stand the thought of their ex BF or husband finding out they "stopped to" net dating. Puts a woman's social value in the loo apparently. I know this because the ones I've dated whose ex was internet dating also didn't care a bit that people knew, and others didn't care if one group knew it, but in another group with connections back to the ex, no matter how remote, I was instructed to avoid the topic entirely, and get this, asked to LIE if it came up. Makes sucha good impression when someone you have only been out with a couple times asks you to lie for them if you run into certain people they know.
tami-chan Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 My favorite is the "friends bought me a subscription." I have been the "first internet date" for 7-8 women also, what a hoot. They lie so naturally too that it's disturbing, and always volunteer the lie which makes it worse. I halfway understand lying to a semi-stranger in light of an uncomfortable or inappropriate question, but going out of one's way to volunteer lies? Bleh. Here's the truth of it. Most of them this affects, and this includes certain females in male bodies too, can't stand the thought of their ex BF or husband finding out they "stopped to" net dating. Puts a woman's social value in the loo apparently. I know this because the ones I've dated whose ex was internet dating also didn't care a bit that people knew, and others didn't care if one group knew it, but in another group with connections back to the ex, no matter how remote, I was instructed to avoid the topic entirely, and get this, asked to LIE if it came up. Makes sucha good impression when someone you have only been out with a couple times asks you to lie for them if you run into certain people they know. You mean, like lie on how you met? so what were you supposed to say? "we met in a concert"?
L3stat Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 LOL i've met all my girlfriends online its just easier for me and they all lied about how they met me lol.
Awesome Username Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 That's an easy one. 1. because it's tends to make a woman seem desperate, or undatable. 2. Men tend to want what others have, or want, so if a women has to resort to online dating... 3. they're afraid the guys will think they are easy. Agreeeeeee I'll be the first to admit that though the prospect of online dating seems great, I'm narcissistic enough to probably deny it if I ever did.
atlnay Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 (edited) As if they're ashamed of online dating. Ladies, how many of you are ashamed of online dating, and try to make it sound like you're "not looking" when in fact your actions say otherwise, because just being on a dating site, they'r making themselves out to be a liar" The only real person they're fooling is not the men, but just themselves, so why bother? Ehh...you wouldn't notice it with men, since you aren't looking at male profiles just like I wouldn't be aware that women that since I don't look at female profiles. What I notice men do when they contact me or I contact them is say, "Well, this is my FIRST time responding/meeting/being on this site" :rolleyes: I play along like I really buy it, but LOLz inside. I need to play the lotto because I would say I've met about 20 guys in the last year or so and my I am still batting a thousand...lol Oh and the ones I do meet always want to come up with a creative place to tell people where we met...lol...some men are ashamed, just like some women are...*shrug* Edited October 1, 2010 by atlnay
porter218 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I was wondering, on dating sites, and I've noticed this VERY often with women (not men all that much) They write up a profile, and there would be comments and phrases on how they "aren't looking, but if the right guy came along, they'd consider it" Or some similar statements like, 'My friends put me up to this, so I dunno, this is my first time...so just trying it out" As if they're ashamed of online dating. Ladies, how many of you are ashamed of online dating, and try to make it sound like you're "not looking" when in fact your actions say otherwise, because just being on a dating site, they'r making themselves out to be a liar" The only real person they're fooling is not the men, but just themselves, so why bother? I notice this on almost half the male profiles on these sites.. Perhaps you should take a look and realize both sides are pulling this bs. I never contact these men after seeing this.
that girl Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Haven't you posted a few things like this about what women do online dating that men never do? Unless you are bisexual or keeping some kind of detailed log, odds are you are looking at way more profiles of women than men and are more likely to see things that put you off. Lots of people will say something about how awkward they feel online dating like "I can't belive I'm doing this!" It doesn't mean anything.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 "aren't looking, but if the right guy came along, they'd consider it" Or some similar statements like, 'My friends put me up to this, so I dunno, this is my first time...so just trying it out" As if they're ashamed of online dating. How in the world do you get "ashamed of online dating" from those??? Would you rather they simply write: "I'm looking for a MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN (this evening, next week, forever, I'm open to all three;) ) Call me! Yes, YOU!"
Author irc333 Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 LOL i've met all my girlfriends online its just easier for me and they all lied about how they met me lol. LOL...yeah, maybe I should change this title to "How many of you lied about how you met your SO if you met them online?"
porter218 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 LOL...yeah, maybe I should change this title to "How many of you lied about how you met your SO if you met them online?" I remember one guys headline was " We can tell our friends we met at the grocery store" LOL
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