alexlakeman Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Earlier this month went out with one woman, made out, great evening.. I texted her the next day that we weren't compatible... Two weeks ago, was talking to another woman and then things just fizzled for me, before we even met.. Last week, one lady I was talking to, we were going to meet, then she texts me that I travel too much... and the second date I had for last week, texts me friday with "car trouble", lol.. Yesterday, I go out with another lady, first date, and she was beautiful, just a little chunky... she texts me, I text her back, "no chemistry"... Today, i go out with a new candidate, we've been talking for two weeks.. NOW TODAY I am the one wondering, "did she like me?", "do I text her?" , lol... WOW, I'll take this one, but not I'm just waiting to see if she'll text me, lol.. I was actually hmm..well, as we talked when we left, I didn't even kiss her on the cheek , lol.. once I turned around to walk to my car, I was like "oh crap, didn't kiss her gn"... So, now? The wait...will she text? Did she like? LOL.. How the tables turn so quickly lol.. The one yesterday had texted me "so what did you think?" I am wondering if I should text tonight's the same thing.. or just call her Wed or wait for her to make contact... Did I feel chemistry? yeahh, but she didn't touch my arm one time or no flirting, we were just talking about kids and work.. we were there for about 2 1/2 hrs.. so it might fizzle ..
bac Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I think you worry too much about rejection on the first date. Most women in late30s-40s do not reject men on the first dates. They would reject a man later when they really know a man, especially when they know him sexually. You should text her first after the first date. If you do not contact her after the date, it means that you rejected her. You do not need to send her your cruel rejection note about no chemistry unless a woman is stupied enough to ask specifically if she is rejected.
sanskrit Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 No text. Wait 2-3 days, plan the next date based on what you learned about her on the first date, call and ask her out for Mon-Wed next week. You will get your answer then. If she freaks over a 2-3 day wait, she isn't what you are looking for, trust me.
Author alexlakeman Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 (edited) Well, texted her two hrs ago, no response. Historically (the last two wks) she's texted me back within an hour or when at work... So it stll might have some life, lol. And no, I'm not dieing here waiting for answer, but no doubt I'm looking forward to a positive response. With d message I sent her, she's either going to have to be direct on wanting to c me again or just not text me back, as I texted her that I enjoyed the evening, and was looking forward to seeing her again. As I sd on a prior post, I didn't feel 100% that we had the "chemistry" as there was no closenes plus the convo was plain vanilla. Tick, tick, tick, tick zZzzzzz lol Oh well Edited September 29, 2010 by alexlakeman
carhill Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 When I'm out on a date with a woman and talking with her and see all these people standing and sitting around with their crackberries in their hands texting, I have to wonder where communication has gone. OP, if you enjoyed the evening and are interested in a repeat performance, defeat the text function and let her hear your voice asking her out for it. It's really that simple. No drama, no major investment of time or resources. If it doesn't fly, OK. Next.
waynebrady Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Women never initiate contact, not even in commited relationships nevermind the early stages of dating. As a man you are the one who have to text/call her, that's your "job" you know.
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