Text her happy bday?

[john 07]

Hey guys about two months ago I met a girl in a bar through a friend. Had great talks and a good time. I scheduled a date with her but she canceled on me and when we rescheduled I had to cancel for legit reasons. Since then I have been out of town for two months now for rotations. It's her birthday today, I remember because she told me. Maybe time to say hi and happy bday? Or will this look stalkerish since I haven't talked to her in 6 weeks?? Thanks

[curlygirl40]

Funny I did this same sort of thing last week.

 

There was a guy I was talking to from Match. We were texting a lot. He suggested we get together some time over the weekend. The weekend came and went and no word from him. Then nothing for a month.

 

I woke up last Tuesday and remembered that it was his birthday. I sent him a quick text. He texted back and seemed very happy that I remembered.

 

I personally think if you approach it the right way it won't seem stalkerish. But maybe that's me.

 

Kind of like 'hey I looked at the date today and realized it's your birthday and wanted to tell you to make it a great one', and don't expect any sort of big 'where have you been all my life' response

 

So I say do it. But I'm new at this whole dating stuff. I try to be myself whenever I can. I really did wake up last Tuesday thinking about him and wanting to say hi. So I did. It went over well.

 

But I didn't use him responding as an excuse to try to see him again or to continue to text him a lot. Now I've opened the door and he knows there's no hard feelings about him not following through. He has contacted me since to say hi, so maybe I've opened the door and he's walking through it.

 

Good luck!

[Allisha]

Funny I did this same sort of thing last week.

 

There was a guy I was talking to from Match. We were texting a lot. He suggested we get together some time over the weekend. The weekend came and went and no word from him. Then nothing for a month.

 

I woke up last Tuesday and remembered that it was his birthday. I sent him a quick text. He texted back and seemed very happy that I remembered.

 

I personally think if you approach it the right way it won't seem stalkerish. But maybe that's me.

 

Kind of like 'hey I looked at the date today and realized it's your birthday and wanted to tell you to make it a great one', and don't expect any sort of big 'where have you been all my life' response

 

So I say do it. But I'm new at this whole dating stuff. I try to be myself whenever I can. I really did wake up last Tuesday thinking about him and wanting to say hi. So I did. It went over well.

 

But I didn't use him responding as an excuse to try to see him again or to continue to text him a lot. Now I've opened the door and he knows there's no hard feelings about him not following through. He has contacted me since to say hi, so maybe I've opened the door and he's walking through it.

 

Good luck!

 

I agree with all of this.

word the text sort of like this poster advised. Don't overthink it. Just be yourself.

 

ONE text though. Just one. If she doesn't reply, leave it at that. Forever.

[phineas]

I sent a b-day text to woman about a month ago early in the day.

I hadn't talked to her in a few weeks because she pulled a "poof".

Well past my bed time I got a text thanking me & wondering what I was doing.

 

Had I been awake to respond to that text.......

 

I got back to her the next morning but it went no-where & I haven't heard from her since.

[SadandConfusedWA]

phineas, do you live in Australia?

[Cards569]

Hey guys about two months ago I met a girl in a bar through a friend. Had great talks and a good time. I scheduled a date with her but she canceled on me and when we rescheduled I had to cancel for legit reasons. Since then I have been out of town for two months now for rotations. It's her birthday today, I remember because she told me. Maybe time to say hi and happy bday? Or will this look stalkerish since I haven't talked to her in 6 weeks?? Thanks

 

Go for it. Like everyone else says, just one text, though. Who knows, it could go somewhere, it might not. But, you won't know till you put yourself out there.

[john 07]

So she said thank you!.. I'm so surprised you remembered!! I'm going to take it as just a friendly reply. Do you guys think it will be weird if I said "stop by total bar on Friday and I'll get you a birthday drink". Total bar is where I met her last month.....

[SadandConfusedWA]

So she said thank you!.. I'm so surprised you remembered!! I'm going to take it as just a friendly reply. Do you guys think it will be weird if I said "stop by total bar on Friday and I'll get you a birthday drink". Total bar is where I met her last month.....

 

Go for it. I say it's always better to give it a shot and have no regrets, unless you are one of those people who can't take rejection.

[john 07]

Go for it. I say it's always better to give it a shot and have no regrets, unless you are one of those people who can't take rejection.

 

Eh I think I can take rejection just fine.

[reservoirdog1]

Go for it. I say it's always better to give it a shot and have no regrets, unless you are one of those people who can't take rejection.

I agree, go for it. Just like you typed it -- sounds friendly but casual and not desperate. Who knows what might happen.

[Art_Critic]

I agree, go for it. Just like you typed it -- sounds friendly but casual and not desperate. Who knows what might happen.

 

I agree too...

 

but would add.. Send the Text during the day.. you don't want to send the text while she is out with another guy