jw90063 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 OK, so for a while I've been talking to this guy I met from a dating site. I've had my doubts about him, but was trying to give it some time to see if I felt comfortable enough to meet. We have had some rather interesting and fun conversations. One thing in particular about him is this egotistical attitude he displays at times. He tells me he is jokingly doing this, but why would a guy go around acting like he has a major ego? He has a twitter page, and is constantly trying to act like he is full of himself. On the phone, he came across as cocky at times, but I tried not to think much of it. I guess its mostly on his Twitter that I noticed how egotistical he can be. Now, I'm wondering if maybe in fact he really is that way. Again, he says he is joking, but I mean WTF? Do you think this is a bad sign or what? I want opinions, thanks.
make me believe Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Even if he is joking, he sounds really annoying. I wouldn't even bother meeting him if you're already having doubts.
sanskrit Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Please give some examples of his egotistical behavior. Some men feel that they need to present a cocky exterior or women will become bored with them.
Author jw90063 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 Please give some examples of his egotistical behavior. Some men feel that they need to present a cocky exterior or women will become bored with them. I think he must just be insecure and thinks he has to present himself this way. I'm not sure if I can give the best examples. Well, I noticed he refers to himself online as being a smart ass and sexy, or he'll say he is awesome, or mentions his appearance from time to time. Also, something about the way he responds to people. Just seems a bit...uh. I really liked that he has a great witty sense of humor(he is really heavy on that), but if he is really egotistical, then that wouldn't work for me. He is an artist, and is on several web sites, so I'm just going by stuff I've read. The only thing I really picked up on while actually talking to him, was the sound of his voice at times, and that was when I questioned if he was a bit cocky. Now, reading some of the stuff he says, I'm really wondering. If he says he is joking, then you'd like to think that's the case, but to me would that not still require some actual degree of cockiness to present yourself that way to people ? Not sure, if this is something he does more so behind the PC or in real life.
sanskrit Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Would go on a date and find out for sure. It's just a date. If he turns out to be an arrogant ass, at least you will have a story to tell about "cocky boy."
carhill Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 If otherwise you feel attraction, go on a real life date. TBH, someone who qualifies otherwise objectionable behavior with 'I was just joking' would be a red flag to me, but YMMV. Good luck
TaraMaiden Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 "Many a true word spoken in jest".......
Author jw90063 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 "Many a true word spoken in jest"....... Good quote. That may very well be the case here. If otherwise you feel attraction, go on a real life date. TBH, someone who qualifies otherwise objectionable behavior with 'I was just joking' would be a red flag to me, but YMMV. Good luck Yeah, something tells me its a red flag, but then I just really have enjoyed talking to him so it sucks. I guess I'm scared to meet him, and maybe my instincts are trying to tell me something. This is so frustrating.
carhill Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 IMO, online interactions should support and facilitate real life meetings. If such a meeting would not be a substantial investment nor inconvenience, I think it worthwhile to see if any red flags flying online translate to irl. As you say, even with the concerns, you enjoy talking with him and that says something. You don't owe him anything. Give him of your time and/or interest what you freely choose to. Things will work out, one way or another.
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