simon0707 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Hey guys , Allright, I'll make it short 'cause let's face it, we have lives... Got a girl's number from the gym 2 weeks ago. (she works there, yoga trainer or something). Called her last week to chat, kept it short, told her I gota go but I'd be calling her this week to set something up. She agreed and said she'd be down to do something. Called her today told her she should join me out on Thursday, but she said she's got a class and then going out with some friends to a bar, told me to join her. I said I'll think about it and let her know. Don't really feel like going out with her AND her friends for our first time out together honestly, so what do you guys think I Should do? I'd really rather get her alone for that first time, and then I'm all for hanging out with other people. I'm thinking text her that night and be like "Hey, gona pass on tonight but thanks. Tuesday let's do something, let me know." Is that good? Think she's interested? Playing games? I'm still learning, but how am I doing? Thanks in advance !
atlnay Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Not enough info to gauge if she's playing games, but there may be some interest, based on the fact that you got her number and she invited you out with her friends. What level of interest? That's hard to call. You can keep it really simple and be direct, which if done with enough confidence, is a turn on. Simply tell her you would like to take her out to dinner. That let's her know it's one on one. If she doesn't see you like that, or is uncomfortable, you wont' waste time pursuing her. Good luck
Author simon0707 Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 What if I go and she only pays attention to her friends and I'm left alone and it's awkward and I don't get another chance?
atlnay Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 OP, if she does that she is rude. Do you really want another chance? If I give my number to a guy and invite him out with me & my friends, I will be his company for the evening and will try to engage all of us but at least my focus will be on him. Again, you can politely pass on the group outing and attempt to set up a more one on one dinner date.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I've been in this exact situation recently and although I didn't want to do it, I did, and it was a good time - meeting new people and establishing comfort with the girl I was pursuing. I met up with my target and 2 of her friends; both were female. immediately I was thinking I was on a clear path to the friendzone, but that wasnt the case - in this particular instance. I took a chance though. girls will usually ask how you met, etc. and that's always gold because you can flirt very subtly and be very flattering, even in a group setting. in my situation, my engaging the girls I met up with helped them all warm up to me. I thought it was fun, like a coffee date of sorts with 3 girls @once. funny thing is, the girl I've been dating these past 5 weeks was one of the other girls that was at that first meeting (my original target's friend). it also makes it easier to get one-on-one dates when the friends approve, I guess. it didn't work out between me & my target but her friend later became interested, as was I, so there it is. meet as many people/circles as you can see where things go naturally. you never know, so just jump in!
Star Gazer Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I don't really care for the way you're describing your communications with this girl. It sounds like you're TELLING her to go out with you, and not really asking her if she even wants to. Something about the way you're describing it just sounds really presumptuous and cocky to me. Why not call her and ask her if she'd like to do X activity, and once she says yes, suggest a day.
Seamless74 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 no way bro dont go.... its a setup that **** could go really bad... My only critique would be to have actually had a day set up when you got her number to avoid this problem.. you might actually lose face by not showing up but more likely if you do show up things may really go badly... Tell you the truth just her asking you to meet her and her friends should be some indication of where you stand... Gyms a tough place to work...
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