mr.jekyll Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 This probably should be in the fitness section but I think there's an overlap in terms of topic. The girl I've been dating a few weeks told me that her trainer is terribly friendly and they've gotten to know each other like friends. The trainer is a little flirty but she doesn't think it a problem because she says that's just his nature. When I went to pick her up from the gym a few days ago, I saw how he looked at her, examining her features, and I didn't feel that comfortable. I'm not sure she noticed him looking at her that way and I didn't want to bring it up and show how insecure I am. Is it just a trainer trying to keep a client or is there something more?
Fire Salamander Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) This probably should be in the fitness section but I think there's an overlap in terms of topic. The girl I've been dating a few weeks told me that her trainer is terribly friendly and they've gotten to know each other like friends. The trainer is a little flirty but she doesn't think it a problem because she says that's just his nature. When I went to pick her up from the gym a few days ago, I saw how he looked at her, examining her features, and I didn't feel that comfortable. I'm not sure she noticed him looking at her that way and I didn't want to bring it up and show how insecure I am. Is it just a trainer trying to keep a client or is there something more? I hate how you're programmed to think whenever a guy ogles your girl with carnal intent, it's a sign of insecurity. Unless you meant you're afraid you might lose her to him, then that would be considered insecurity. I don't know what your case is but... You know damn well he wants to bend her over on that exercise ball and stick it in. You trust your girlfriend, just not him. You know there are no such things as friends if your girlfriend is attractive. This is the kind of crap you have to deal with when you date hot girls. She doesn't think it's a problem because she enjoys it. She knows what she's doing when she asks for help with those resistance bands. I've learned you either have to deal with it, or move on. Or, you can go out there and make your own female friends. I'd definitely take that course of action. Go to the park and find yourself a cute sexy running partner. Go join a salsa dance club and find an attractive dance partner. Then forget about this girl because she sounds like a headache. Edited September 28, 2010 by Fire Salamander
Author mr.jekyll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 I hate how you're programmed to think whenever a guy ogles your girl with carnal intent, it's a sign of insecurity. Unless you meant you're afraid you might lose her to him, then that would be considered insecurity. I don't know what your case is but... You know damn well he wants to bend her over on that exercise ball and stick it in. You trust your girlfriend, just not him. You know there are no such things as friends if your girlfriend is attractive. This is the kind of crap you have to deal with when you date hot girls. She doesn't think it's a problem because she enjoys it. She knows what she's doing when she asks for help with those resistance bands. I've learned you either have to deal with it, or move on. Or, you can go out there and make your own female friends. I'd definitely take that course of action. Go to the park and find yourself a cute sexy running partner. Go join a salsa dance club and find an attractive dance partner. Then forget about this girl because she sounds like a headache. I like this girl and want something meaningful with her. She's not slutty so I'm inclined to not think she's sweeping it under the carpet because she enjoys the attention. I'm just not sure what the intention of the trainer is, hence my thread. If I'm told all trainers are like this, then maybe I'll have less to worry.
Fire Salamander Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) I like this girl and want something meaningful with her. She's not slutty so I'm inclined to not think she's sweeping it under the carpet because she enjoys the attention. I'm just not sure what the intention of the trainer is, hence my thread. If I'm told all trainers are like this, then maybe I'll have less to worry. I didn't mean to imply that she was slutty, just that all girls enjoy that attention. If you really like this girl then you just have to put up with it. Also, don't think girls are all that innocent and oblivious these days... Besides, I don't think any sane male would disagree that the trainer was checking her out. Edited September 28, 2010 by Fire Salamander
LoLWut Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Perhaps it would be a good idea to let the trainer know of your existence.
Author mr.jekyll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 I didn't mean to imply that she was slutty, just that all girls enjoy that attention. If you really like this girl then you just have to put up with it. Also, don't think girls are all that innocent and oblivious these days... Besides, I don't think any sane male would disagree that the trainer was checking her out. So you're saying by acting that way, the guy has not-so-innocent desires on her?
Fire Salamander Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Perhaps it would be a good idea to let the trainer know of your existence. You really think he's going to care? That should be the girlfriends' job, not his. When he's giving her personal training, it's just the two of them.
Author mr.jekyll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 Perhaps it would be a good idea to let the trainer know of your existence. I can't seem to think anymore. LOL. I don't even know if those actions would mean he's interested in her. I don't really want to blow the nascent relationship by acting jealously.
Fire Salamander Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I can't seem to think anymore. LOL. I don't even know if those actions would mean he's interested in her. I don't really want to blow the nascent relationship by acting jealously. There's really nothing you can do except put up with it. Either that or go find your own personal exercise buddy.
LoLWut Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 You really think he's going to care? That should be the girlfriends' job, not his. When he's giving her personal training, it's just the two of them. Yes... if he's a decent man. Maybe he's just flirty 'cos he doesn't know she's with someone. Go ahead and pick her up early and talk to your girl in front of him. i don't know, works everytime for me. But i'm quite a big guy myself... i walk around 229lbs
Fire Salamander Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Yes... if he's a decent man. Maybe he's just flirty 'cos he doesn't know she's with someone. Go ahead and pick her up early and talk to your girl in front of him. i don't know, works everytime for me. But i'm quite a big guy myself... i walk around 229lbs Well of course that would help. Also the fact that you live in Malaysia. If you even such as mention what you're going to do to him, you'd be in jail here in the US. Scumbags can do whatever they want without fear of repercussion. I'm sure over in Malaysia if you hit on another man's girl you'd get your ass kicked for sure. Just another example of our emasculated society.
EasyHeart Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Yes, the trainer wants to screw your girlfriend. Most guys want to screw your girlfriend. If I met her, I would probably want to screw your girlfriend. Most of the men on this website want to screw your girlfriend. But that's completely irrelevant unless she wants to screw him. Most likely she knows he wants to screw her, and she enjoys knowing that he wants her. Women like to be noticed and desired by every man they meet. But you don't have anything to worry about unless SHE desires another man. Get it? A guy wanting to screw your girlfriend is irrelevant; what matters is who she wants to screw. As long as she only sees her trainer at the gym, relax. Right now, all she is doing is teasing him and enjoying his attention. If she starts going out for a drink with him after her training session, or she otherwise sees him socially, then you have to start worrying.
Author mr.jekyll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 Yes, the trainer wants to screw your girlfriend. Most guys want to screw your girlfriend. If I met her, I would probably want to screw your girlfriend. Most of the men on this website want to screw your girlfriend. But that's completely irrelevant unless she wants to screw him. Most likely she knows he wants to screw her, and she enjoys knowing that he wants her. Women like to be noticed and desired by every man they meet. But you don't have anything to worry about unless SHE desires another man. Get it? A guy wanting to screw your girlfriend is irrelevant; what matters is who she wants to screw. As long as she only sees her trainer at the gym, relax. Right now, all she is doing is teasing him and enjoying his attention. If she starts going out for a drink with him after her training session, or she otherwise sees him socially, then you have to start worrying. I get what you're saying. I probably should have had more trust in her. I can't say as much for the guy, or at least I think.
EasyHeart Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I get what you're saying. I probably should have had more trust in her. I can't say as much for the guy, or at least I think. Yeah, never trust another guy around your girlfriend. Women are very naive about this sort of thing, but most men who show attention to a woman are attracted to her. OTH, keep in mind that this guy is getting paid to spend time with your GF. He may be flirtatious as part of his job -- a way to keep customers coming back. It's the counterpart to men who think all saleswomen want to **** them because they are friendly and flirtatious. Female salespeople often use their attractiveness to make us dumb guys spend more money. I can see a personal trainer doing the same thing. That's why I say you shouldn't worry about it unless it escalates to seeing him outside of the gym. If they start being "friends", then it's time to intervene.
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