Trying To Keep From Destroting it Before it Even Starts!

[cuzinblack]

Hello all..Let me apologize in advance for the lengthiness of this thread! Im very detailed in illustrating my feelings through words!

 

Ok so I've been meeting women online for a few months now and just been casually dating..you know, going thru the standard motions of meeting seeing if there's any chemistries. So last week, I think like, on a Monday, I met up with this woman that I hadnt even had a chance to really have a phone convo with beforehand (which is a usual ritual for me), but was like eh, whatever lemme just meet her.

 

So Im sitting at the table of this lounge waiting for her, well actually, I was late and she had been waiting in her car for me, and she walks in and WOW! This woman was gorgeous-like absolutely ridiculous beautiful! lol Totally struck by her beauty, like for real! Almost to the point where I was feeling a little weird about it-maybe even a tad bit insecure (which is so unlike me!) But, I've never let a woman throw me off balance b4 and I wasnt about to let it happen that night either. So I kept my cool. But like, the conversation totally flowed from the very second she sat down all the way until we were leaving! I mean, we were soooo deeply connected from jump--we're both Aries too our birthdays are like 4 days apart in the same friggin year for crying out loud (this is very relevant actually)!!! In other words, we clicked really fast and really extensively--so much we had to cut the meeting short cuz we were in there past like 12am on a workday. So we left and I walked her to her (Porsche Cheyenne lol) ride and we agreed to try and meet up again soon like that week.

 

Ok, so few things now, truth be told, this is not the type of woman Im used to dealing with--but she is definitely the type I've always wanted for sure! Not that I feel she's outta my league, but she's way above the league/caliber of my usual women. I mean, this lady is an executive VP at an ad firm in midtown Manhattan, has her own place in union city, is gorgeous, no kids, never married, drives a beautiful new porche, blah blah blah. And I already know she's used to getting hit on by dudes w private jets and Yachts and whatnot cuz We talked about it lol. Its another reason why I like her so much, she's not the type of woman who like "needs" a man's wealth, ya know? Thing is, though, that I have NONE of that, Im not even close to those guys' status yet...but I know I shared a special bond with this girl that night, and I know she knows it too. Ok moving on...

 

So Im like so amped up and so excited at this point, you know the very next day Im like totally ON IT! Texting and all that-we're going back and forth throughout the day/week and Im steady trying to make another date. She's understandably a busy woman and all, but still Im so damn aggressive Im like all on it! So I had sent her a text one morning like, on thursday I think. And I didnt hear back from her that day...so me being the ever-so-impatient cat that I am, I sent her a text on some "gotta keep the communication consistent hun-u never hit me back blah blah blah type thing" as if she owed me something; as if I had any right whatsoever to try and regulate the timeliness of her responses!...I knew it was a mistake. But I didnt even think about it until after I pressed send, of course! She hit me back soon after on some "yea we should re-connect sometime soon but you're coming on a weee bit too strong for me so fast"....I was like AHHH DANG! THought I might have killed it but she made it a point to reassure me there was no "beef". That it was ok. We peaced it out and she seemed still interested, I did the apologies thing and smoothed it out.

 

I waited a couple days to reach back out to her (yesterday I believe) and she hit me back--texts--really brief just on some "hey how r u" stuff. The last text was sent by me where I was just kinda telling her I had wanted to send her an email or something. BUt I hadnt actually asked her a question or anything that would necessarily constitute a response. And I havent texted her again since yesterday but Im so interested in her and so I really dont wanna mess this up. I was gonna reach out to her tonight to schedule another date but I dunno if I should! I dont wanna make it look like Im desperate but I also dont want her to mistakenly think Im no longer interested and not willing to pursue her! I really feel like she still has interest in me too-she's the type of woman that wouldnt hesitate to let me know if she had no interest. I know she wouldnt have responded to any further texts at the very least. Plus I know she's still talking to other dudes, so I kinda dont wanna lose her ya know?? I hate playing these communicative games so indicative of new romances, but they seem to be necessary evil! So Whats my next move?!?!?!?

[welikeincrowds]

So Whats my next move?!?!?!?

 

These questions are always so easy to answer.

 

Have you planned your next date?

 

Plan your next date.

 

And look, she's just a human being. She has a lot of power -- sexual, financial, and apparently emotional -- and it's intimidating you. Don't let it. They're just things.

 

Clearly she has impressed you to the point where you feel she deserves you. Show her you deserve her.

[cuzinblack]

Thanks for the advice. And you're right. But how [exactly] do I show her that I deserve her? I wanna say just be myself--as I really do feel that in itself is justification but its just these "early" communicative games that always have to be played that I hate!