SilentVoice Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) Even I am getting sick about writing about online dating. Suppose to go meet up with a guy from OKC. We are going to Barnes and Nobles. Anyway He has one pic on his profile(Face shot). So I decided to ask him to send me a next one ( via text). But he declined. I mean he seriously said no . So the question is . One - Do I go on the meet up? Two - When I do go on , I can't be surprised at what I find there,right? Three - And would it be wrong if I ask him why he can't send me a pic? He said he is at work and works a physical job and looks a mess. Yadda Yadda yah .. I seriously call bull And I had someone tell me yesterday on OKC that they want to be a drag queen version of me. Haha Edited September 27, 2010 by SilentVoice
Rorschach Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 1. I'd go anyway, what can it hurt, at worst you have a night out that doesn't end in anything more. 2. You can't really control whether you feel surprised or not. 3. I can think of a couple reasons why somebody might deny a picture when asked in a 'need one RIGHT NOW' sort of way but a 'can I get a picture sometime in the next few days' is a little bit tougher. The only good excuse I can think of would be mine 'I don't own anything other than a webcam so I can't just get pictures whenever I want'
Confusedalways Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 As a girl, I'd feel scared on the safety level. Like, what if that's not him at all? Something doesn't sit right with this. If you were a guy I'd say what's the harm in going, but personally I don't think I would go-- it's just too weird for me. But I'm a fraidy cat so, take that for what it's worth. If you go, you definitely can't be surprised.
Author SilentVoice Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Yeah that is kind of my problem. The whole idea that he won't send me a picture. Kind of has me sketchy on the safety level. It is really turning me off that he won't send a pic.
alexlakeman Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 The most recent woman I am talking to from online, I've sent her a few other pics via text and she's done the same, just for a comfort level... I wouldn't bother with him... I just met a lady tonight that I had met online and her pics were a tad questionable... I had asked her for another pic and she didn't outright say NO, but declined... I met her tonight and she was a tad on the chunky side... So you might have the male version of her... don't be surprised, lol...
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Even I am getting sick about writing about online dating. Suppose to go meet up with a guy from OKC. We are going to Barnes and Nobles. Anyway He has one pic on his profile(Face shot). So I decided to ask him to send me a next one ( via text). But he declined. I mean he seriously said no . So the question is . One - Do I go on the meet up? Two - When I do go on , I can't be surprised at what I find there,right? Three - And would it be wrong if I ask him why he can't send me a pic? He said he is at work and works a physical job and looks a mess. Yadda Yadda yah .. I seriously call bull And I had someone tell me yesterday on OKC that they want to be a drag queen version of me. Haha What are you thinking? This is the sort of online persona from which you should run!! The goal when initially sifting through online prospects is to locate people who are comfortable with themselves and who have enough common sense to present themselves as they are. Anyone without the instinct to tell you up front that he is huge, isn't bad because he's huge, but he's a rejection based on his unwillingness to be honest. His apparent possession of the stupid idea that a woman is going to melt with undying devotion in person upon learning that she has been deceived (by omission in this case, but sometimes completely) by some smarmy and insecure fool is cause enough for you to write him off.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I wouldn't meet him. I have this vague feeling that men who are not upfront with their pictures on the dating sites are most likely married, in a serious relationship and/or obese. I have also met up with a guy who had a single (angled) face shot that looked kind of cute. In person, he was pretty much obese. It's a pity too because he was really smart and we got along well.
Author SilentVoice Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 Thanks for all the replies. He ended up sending me one . Right after my last post. I met up with him and looks just like his one OKC pic and also like the pic he sent me. Actually he looks better. I am going to see him again tomorrow. I am kind of in lust with him. That is bad .Sigh
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