january2010 Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 And where are you missy?? You haven't been in the chat room today. I don't care if it's 3 a.m. there . I'm back \o/ Did dinner-->fireworks-->housewarming-->late-night/early morning chat-->brunch-->long walk into the City Now back home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 1, 2011 Author Share Posted January 1, 2011 I'm back \o/ Did dinner-->fireworks-->housewarming-->late-night/early morning chat-->brunch-->long walk into the City Now back home. LOL, nice. Link to post Share on other sites
january2010 Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 How was your NYE? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 No worries about earlier - hope your 'coping' is going well today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 How was your NYE? NYE was boring, but still nice I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 Well today was a set back for me. I was leaving my college with my new text books when my mom said "***** cut her hair." That's start everything. She told me that she saw my ex the other day at Walmart and that she was looking at my mom but not looking at her. Weird I guess. Said she cut a good amout of hair off. To her neck. Then she told me that my ex's best friend, lets call her S, set next to my sister on the bus when they went to a event. S said that my ex told her EVERYTHING we did together. Guess what? S told my sister EVERYTHING we did. That happen back in October and they're barely telling me now, which is fine I guess. I don't know what she told my sister, but i plain to find out when she gets home from school. S and my sister aren't friends, so for her to just sit next to her and tell her all this stuff is a bit weird. Like it was planned out by either my ex and S or just S. Not sure and probably won't ever know. Then my mom said she saw the other guy driving my ex's car. Her dad gave her a set of rules to follow when she got the car. One of them was that nobody but her was to drive the car. She also said that she sees her driving him around. Which was another rule. No BFs in the car. I just don't know why S told my sister all that stuff. Why my ex is breaking all those rules. Who knows what she has been doing since the break up. Just not a good day. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 ((((((Leandro)))))) I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 ((((((Leandro)))))) I'm sorry. It's life jan. None of that now. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Hey, hope you are better today and trying to focus on going back to school rather than everything that got kicked up regarding your ex. Sorry about yesterday Link to post Share on other sites
Iselia Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 I just don't know why S told my sister all that stuff. Why my ex is breaking all those rules. Who knows what she has been doing since the break up. S told your sister that stuff because she has no regard for privacy. She's trying to get at ya. She knows all the information she told your sister will be relayed right back at ya. Another stab to the heart. What a b*tch with a complete lack of empathy. Your ex is breaking all those rules because she's in her own little world. It's all "me, me, me" at this point. She has not respect regarding her father's rules. Remember that list we made? I'm going to post it here so you can read it again and keep in mind that this chick is no good for you. Ten Negative Things about Leandro's Ex 1. She was cheap. 2. Took the relationship for granted. 3. Wishy Washy. 4. Treated you like a baby. 5. Stressed you out. 6. Not organized. 7. Talked to other men. 8. Didn’t communicate. 9. A cold b*tch during the breakup. 10. Emotionally abusive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 6, 2011 Author Share Posted January 6, 2011 Hey, hope you are better today and trying to focus on going back to school rather than everything that got kicked up regarding your ex. Sorry about yesterday Nope, today was a little bit better. I woke up at 3 pm . That whole pressure thing has really torn me apart. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 6, 2011 Author Share Posted January 6, 2011 S told your sister that stuff because she has no regard for privacy. She's trying to get at ya. She knows all the information she told your sister will be relayed right back at ya. Another stab to the heart. What a b*tch with a complete lack of empathy. Your ex is breaking all those rules because she's in her own little world. It's all "me, me, me" at this point. She has not respect regarding her father's rules. Remember that list we made? I'm going to post it here so you can read it again and keep in mind that this chick is no good for you. Ten Negative Things about Leandro's Ex 1. She was cheap. 2. Took the relationship for granted. 3. Wishy Washy. 4. Treated you like a baby. 5. Stressed you out. 6. Not organized. 7. Talked to other men. 8. Didn’t communicate. 9. A cold b*tch during the breakup. 10. Emotionally abusive. Yea I thinking that maybe they did so that I could break NC in someway. My sister told me what S told her. . She said that my ex is saying that I pressured her into sex. . That really really hurt me. She was always fine with it. I would even ask her if she was fine with it and that we didn't need to do it. . Link to post Share on other sites
Iselia Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Yea I thinking that maybe they did so that I could break NC in someway. My sister told me what S told her. . She said that my ex is saying that I pressured her into sex. . That really really hurt me. She was always fine with it. I would even ask her if she was fine with it and that we didn't need to do it. . Your ex is full of it. I think... She's trying to engrain it into her mind that you pressured her so she can rationalize the breakup. Dumpers have to rationalize their desire to get rid of their SO or else the feelings will never die. Dumpee do something similar too, just at a later point in time. Dumpers either have good reasons or bad reasons for rationalizing the breakup. In your case, I'd say bad reasons. Seems like she just wanted to run off with someone new and try new things. Dumpees tend to rationalize breakups based on the rejection and hurt; good reasons (who wants someone who doesn't love them and want them for who they are?). You'll get through this. Don't let the ex get to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 7, 2011 Author Share Posted January 7, 2011 Your ex is full of it. I think... She's trying to engrain it into her mind that you pressured her so she can rationalize the breakup. Dumpers have to rationalize their desire to get rid of their SO or else the feelings will never die. Dumpee do something similar too, just at a later point in time. Dumpers either have good reasons or bad reasons for rationalizing the breakup. In your case, I'd say bad reasons. Seems like she just wanted to run off with someone new and try new things. Dumpees tend to rationalize breakups based on the rejection and hurt; good reasons (who wants someone who doesn't love them and want them for who they are?). You'll get through this. Don't let the ex get to you. Yea, that's what I'm thinking. Can't wait till school starts. Get this degree over and done with. Start making the big bucks . And I get to spend all that money on ME and maybe someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 18, 2011 Author Share Posted January 18, 2011 Alrighty well I finally start school tomorrow!! It's been 5 months since the break up and probably 4 and a half months of NC. Starting to lose count now. Looking forward to making new friends this year. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Alrighty well I finally start school tomorrow!! It's been 5 months since the break up and probably 4 and a half months of NC. Starting to lose count now. Looking forward to making new friends this year. \o/ Yay! I'm happy for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 18, 2011 Author Share Posted January 18, 2011 \o/ Yay! I'm happy for you Hey Jan! Today was pretty good. Found out some good news about my field. hehehe, going to be making some money when i graduate. Oh yea!! OMG! Kick boxing was crazy. I didn't think he was going to make us workout the first day. pssh. wrong. It's not fun to stretch, run and do high kicks in jeans. lol. I also started talking to 2 girls in there. tons of girls in there anyways. Looking forward to talking to them on Thursday and getting my damn degree so i can start working. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Sounds like life is great at the moment Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 Sounds like life is great at the moment For now, yes. I think school will help me get over my ex a lot faster, since I won't have time to sit and think about her all day. Wish I could join the chat room, but my net sucks soooooo bad. It takes like a minute to load a page. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 For now, yes. I think school will help me get over my ex a lot faster, since I won't have time to sit and think about her all day. Wish I could join the chat room, but my net sucks soooooo bad. It takes like a minute to load a page. Yes, you will be too busy We will see you soon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 Yea, this connection is making me mad. Tomorrow I'll take my laptop and use their internet to read LS threads and post on them. I get to use boxing gloves tomorrow . Maybe I should knock some girl out, just to flirt with her . I got to see the labs we will be working with. Looks like a lot of fun too. doing good Jan? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 Yup - will tell you more when you get into the chatroom. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 20, 2011 Author Share Posted January 20, 2011 Yup - will tell you more when you get into the chatroom. I'm sorry Jan. I was all sweaty after kick boxing and just wanted to come home. I had a bad drive up to the school. Depressed and all . It's gone now though. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 I'm sorry Jan. I was all sweaty after kick boxing and just wanted to come home. I had a bad drive up to the school. Depressed and all . It's gone now though. Oh dear - what's up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leandro Posted January 20, 2011 Author Share Posted January 20, 2011 Oh dear - what's up? I was just missing her. Wondering what I did wrong. Still blame myself after 5. I'm sure it will go away. Link to post Share on other sites
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