evoguy Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 about 2 months ago, got out of a 3 year relationship was completely in love but time to move on, at work i met a new girl, had heard other guys were interested in her but i didnt take any heed to it, i wanted her and went for it, i took her on our first date and kissed her and it was perfect. she told me about another guy who was a little more interested than the rest, he quite literally kissed her about a weekbefore i did. but didnt commit like i did, anyways she's with me now but admitted she has feelings for bothof us, slightly more him than me, she's also admitted she'd never leave me for him and that she just has to get over him, it kind of killed his ego when she picked me, and he's in love with her, as am i to be honest, its hard for me to deal with her loving him more but staying with me, its not like she doesnt love me, but has to get over him, she's shown a few commitments to me to prove shes serious about not leavin me.(like we are going to move with her family across state this spring and live together) and i dont think he would be there and love her like i do, just knowing him. not sure how to handle my emotions. it keeps getting brought up one way or another when it needs to be left alone so those feelings for him go away. just lookin for some advice.
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 just lookin for some advice. Yeah... just dump her. I mean seriously... she loves this other guy more? Even though he would not treat her as well. That's sounds like a really stupid girl.
Sphere Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 A word of advice: Dump her as soon as possible.
Author evoguy Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 that thoughts crossed my mind plenty of times, she couldnt explain why she felt that way and admitted all those things about him herself, about him not carin as much or anything, im wondering if alot of it would have to do with him tellin her how he feels and her feelin bad about "picking" me. and she definitely loves me, she breaks down cryin at the thought of losin me.
Sphere Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 She is disrespecting you, she doesn't love you and you should walk before you really do get hurt. Spare your feelings and save your time for someone who is worthy of it. Cut off all contact with her, if you do break up with her and find someone who isn't full of drama waiting to happen. If you do stick with her, don't be surprised if she cheats on you or dumps you for him. That's all I'm saying, I think as tough as it is now, dumping her is the best option for you, your sanity and your feelings.
Author evoguy Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 ehh its tough,can i believe her when she says she wouldnt do any of that? it feels like i can. and shes pretty serious about me comin with her cross the mountains this spring.my family and friends are sayin she's testin waters with both of us to see who would commit more, either way if i leave her shes goin cross state.some examples of what shes told me "i hate myself for feeling like this" "i dont want to hurt you" "id be devastated if i lost you" "i dont understand why i feel this way" " id never leave you for him" it feels like the best option to leave her but her family likes me so much and i can tell she loves me alot. and i love her enough to hate myself for finding out she wasnt lying about anything and left her for no reason.
Author evoguy Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 ive also thought about giving the ultimatum of me or him but its feelin like if i left it alone itd all blow over and she'd fall for me completely so if i did just say hey me or him, that it might push her to him because i couldnt leave it alone.
Sphere Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Your choice man, but you will wind up hurt in some way or another. I'll be here to support you man, but remember "those who live by the sword with also die by the sword", prepare for the worst, when it happens.
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