Rooooob Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 So recently I was out at a bar/club (Not my scene, personally) with a good friend of mine, and he was approached by a girl that asked him to dance. They were both extremely flirty with one another and danced for maybe 20-30 minutes. Afterwords (this is around 2 am and the place was closing) they talked for a few minutes and everybody went home. Problem is he didn't exactly get her number. It's not that he tried and failed, its that he didn't try to get it, at all. He's really beating himself up over it because he was really into this girl. I tried to reassure him that it was probably nothing more than just two single people dancing together. I found myself in a similar situation, and didn't read too much into it. But, anyways, I was hoping to get some answers from some of the female posters around here. I must admit that his certainty did make me somewhat wonder... If a sober woman asks you to dance, is it because she's genuinely interested? Maybe she finds you attractive? I guess his doubt just got me thinking a little bit, but I'm pretty much right for the most part, right?
Oxo Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Personally, I would only ask a guy to dance if I thought he was attractive, and was interested in trying to get to know him better at a later date. However, if by the end of the night he hadn't asked for my number, I would ask for his. I'm only saying that because you specifically said she was sober. If she was drunk, different story So it could be either, she may have just wanted to dance and wanted a partner, OR she was interested but because he didn't ask for her number she thought he wasn't interested. It really depends on the girl, there is no cut and dry answer IMO.
Author Rooooob Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Personally, I would only ask a guy to dance if I thought he was attractive, and was interested in trying to get to know him better at a later date. However, if by the end of the night he hadn't asked for my number, I would ask for his. I'm only saying that because you specifically said she was sober. If she was drunk, different story So it could be either, she may have just wanted to dance and wanted a partner, OR she was interested but because he didn't ask for her number she thought he wasn't interested. It really depends on the girl, there is no cut and dry answer IMO. Yeah, that's kind of what I was thinking. You're right, it just depends on the person, but I wanna thank you for giving your opinion. Like I said, it just kind of got me wondering because I had a very similar experience on the same night. I ended up having to leave before I got her number, but I wasn't bugged by it. I swear, this happened Friday night, and my buddy was still bothered by it on Sunday. I tried to tell him; "Well maybe we'll see them again if we go next week." I mean, c'mon. You barely met the girl...lol. Not sure why he's so worked up.
Oxo Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Maybe he's worked up because one you miss out on is one you don't get again lol Maybe he saw something in her that he wanted to explore further? Who knows. I'd go back next week if I was him
Author Rooooob Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Maybe I wasn't as upset (at all, actually) because the girl I clicked with has a sister whom I'm good friends with. lol. So If I choose to do so, it wouldn't be super difficult to get in contact with her.
ifyouareok Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 just need one to dance, sometime we have too much stress or just feel boring, we need one to dance when we are alone in a bar.
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