nyr81 Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 She I've been out with this girl twice. The second date went really well. We held hands walking around a theme park. The date ended with a kiss. I gave it a few days and then called her. She texted back to say sorry about missing my call. I tried calling her again a day or two later and left another message. She apologized again for missing my call but asked me about my day. When I texted her about a third date on friday she had work (she works alot of evenings). I suggested sunday instead but she texted saying her girlfriend was in town and they had plans (this was yesterday). So I guess my question is what now? Should I call her again and ask her out again? Text her again? I'm thinking I should let her either call or text me next to test her interest. Any thoughts on the matter?
kdark Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 She I've been out with this girl twice. The second date went really well. We held hands walking around a theme park. The date ended with a kiss. I gave it a few days and then called her. She texted back to say sorry about missing my call. I tried calling her again a day or two later and left another message. She apologized again for missing my call but asked me about my day. When I texted her about a third date on friday she had work (she works alot of evenings). I suggested sunday instead but she texted saying her girlfriend was in town and they had plans (this was yesterday). So I guess my question is what now? Should I call her again and ask her out again? Text her again? I'm thinking I should let her either call or text me next to test her interest. Any thoughts on the matter? Don't do anything. The ball is in her court. It's her turn to put forth some effort into wanting to see you.
Author nyr81 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 I tend to agree with you. The only thing is I think some girls always expect the guy to make the contact especially early on in dating. Especially shy girls.
USMCHokie Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Question...when you called and left a voicemail, did you ask her to call you back...? If I leave a voicemail and ask her to call me back and I get a lame text back, I am inclined to LAUNCH...she can't respect me enough to call me back...? When she responded to your first message, she didn't even bring up going out with you again (assuming you mentioned it in your voicemail)...she just "asked how your day was"...my spidey sense is tingling...and I feel a LAUNCH coming... Also, never ask a girl out via text. Lame. And leave better voicemails...
tami-chan Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Question...when you called and left a voicemail, did you ask her to call you back...? If I leave a voicemail and ask her to call me back and I get a lame text back, I am inclined to LAUNCH...she can't respect me enough to call me back...? So you think she owes you a call back? When she responded to your first message, she didn't even bring up going out with you again (assuming you mentioned it in your voicemail)...she just "asked how your day was"...my spidey sense is tingling...and I feel a LAUNCH coming... I agree!
Author nyr81 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 I did call and leave a message asking her to call me. She texted me back but late at night (around midnight when she was getting out of work but when I would be asleep). Said she didn't want to wake me, which would have been the case. I only asked her out via text after calling a second time to only have it go to voicemail again (she was working, which I did not know). It just seems very puzzling that the chemistry was really there on the second date and to have it end so well and then just fizzle out.
USMCHokie Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 So you think she owes you a call back? Hahah, hi Tami. Actually, no, she doesn't owe me anything. But if she's interested and wants to respond, I'd prefer a call and not a text. To me, text response = not interested...and in the past, I've generally treated it the same as I would if she had never responded at all...
USMCHokie Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I did call and leave a message asking her to call me. She texted me back but late at night (around midnight when she was getting out of work but when I would be asleep). Said she didn't want to wake me, which would have been the case. I only asked her out via text after calling a second time to only have it go to voicemail again (she was working, which I did not know). It just seems very puzzling that the chemistry was really there on the second date and to have it end so well and then just fizzle out. Stranger things have happened in the world of dating... She could have also texted you saying something like this: "Sorry I missed your call. I didn't want to wake you, so I'll call you tomorrow." That is acceptable. As long as she eventually returns your call with a call...
Author nyr81 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 I suppose you're right. Her texts are full of smily/frown faces and exclamation points. In my experience, when a girl does this she is interested. Otherwise, why would she make the effort.
alclarkey Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I suppose you're right. Her texts are full of smily/frown faces and exclamation points. In my experience, when a girl does this she is interested. Otherwise, why would she make the effort. In my experience girls fill their texts and messages with smiley faces regardless of their interest. Hell you might get a message like this: ":) My brother's girlfriend was just beaten to death, and my brother was charged with with murder lol1!1!1!"
Author nyr81 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 So then I guess the final question is let's say she texts me should I then call her and ask for a date or just ignore it if she didn't even contact me?
USMCHokie Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Depends on the content of the text. If it's a bullsh*t "how are ya" text, then just give her a bullsh*t answer (or none at all if you are so inclined...). But if she mentions going out again, then go for it.
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