What's happening? Is this normal?

[green apples]

I met this guy. Younger, intellectually different and from a different crowd. Everything different than what I'm used to. I don't believe in robbing the cradle. I'm into a good international relations debate. He's into "fun" conversations. His friends are mostly younger and he has a fun streak and a more easygoing attitude while I'm more of a type A and focused on my career.

 

But we get along. And I even enjoy his company and whatever the conversations we engage in. I even get butterflies in my stomach when I hear from him or we see each other (no, we aren't dating or hooking up).

 

I know neither of us sees each other as a potential but it seems so "right."

 

What's happening? Am I just enjoying the attention? Is this normal?

[a_woman]

you like him. Of course it's normal.

[green apples]

Even if he's completely different than what I'm used to and like?

[Romance]

Yeah, he's something different so it is intriguing to you

[green apples]

Even when we both know nothing will come out of it?

 

That's what I don't understand.

[welikeincrowds]

That's what I don't understand.

 

Not a single poet that ever lived claimed to understand the heart, OP. You don't have to marry him, right?

[green apples]

No, I don't. I just want to understand myself.

[welikeincrowds]

No, I don't. I just want to understand myself.

 

Oh, to be Type A.

 

For what it's worth, I'm going through a similar thing. I'm having trouble making the distinction between "differences" and "obstacles." The difference between us though is that your feelings sound undeniable. You'll never know if it works until you find out.

[green apples]

Oh, to be Type A.

 

For what it's worth, I'm going through a similar thing. I'm having trouble making the distinction between "differences" and "obstacles." The difference between us though is that your feelings sound undeniable. You'll never know if it works until you find out.

 

 

What is it that you're going through, if you want to share?

 

I'm not sure if my feelings are "undeniable." I mean I like this guy and enjoy his company but I'm not sure it'll work in the long term with our lives meshed. He's like a kid to me and each of us may not be able to engage our circles of friends.

[welikeincrowds]

I'm not sure it'll work in the long term

 

This is the issue, long term thinking. You enjoy your time together now -- shouldn't that be what matters? I say this not to point fingers, but because I'm coming from a similar place.

 

I'd be happy to share what's up with me but I want to make sure it's relevant so that I don't threadjack you.

[jamesum]

How much younger? 20 years? I hate it when people get hysterical over younger partners when they are only 10 years younger or less.

[green apples]

This is the issue, long term thinking. You enjoy your time together now -- shouldn't that be what matters? I say this not to point fingers, but because I'm coming from a similar place.

 

Yes, for now it's good. Just enjoying each other's company. I may also be an attention whore.

 

 

I'd be happy to share what's up with me but I want to make sure it's relevant so that I don't threadjack you.

 

Sure. Or you can start a thread about yours?

[green apples]

How much younger? 20 years? I hate it when people get hysterical over younger partners when they are only 10 years younger or less.

 

 

To each their own. To me it's young.

[jamesum]

To each their own. To me it's young.

Exactly, unwarranted hysteria.

[AmItheOnlyOne]

You are Rose and you found your Jack.

 

Now let's all sing some celine dion ;P