Pianoguy Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Hey all, I've been posting here before about my ex-quasi-fiancé, and I've finally out there dating, and it's great. But, in my previous two relationships, the girl initiated it the first time and with my recent ex, I just kissed her one day and we were suddenly a couple. So I'm pretty new to actual dating at 25 years old, and would like some pointers! I just went out on a date with this girl I met, and it went pretty well. We got to know each other a bit, and we have a lot more in common than we're different (as far as I can tell). We went to a comedy club, I bought her drinks, we had a fun time, I walked her home and gave her a kiss on the cheek goodnight. So here's the situation: I play piano for a community choir (non-religious) and I met her through that, and I'll see her at rehearsal on Wednesday, four days from now. I'm going on vacation until Wednesday, so I won't see her until then. It also still feels like I'm testing the waters and I can't tell if she's interested, or nervous. We had some brief moments looking into each other's eyes that were nice, and there were some silences, but they didn't feel too awkward to me. Should I call her today and say I had a nice time or wait until I see her at rehearsal? She doesn't know I'm going on vacation. Is it too soon to invite her to a movie at my place next week? So many questions, I'm so bad at this! Also, here's a somewhat serious concern for me -- I'm self-employed and finally make a decent living for myself doing what I want to do, but I still don't have much spending money (yet). I'm a musician and I feel extremely proud that my career is finally taking off, but at the moment, I really don't think I can afford fancy restaurants or buying her drinks and flowers regularly. Would this be a deal-breaker for most women, even though I still feel really confident?
CLC2008 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Also, here's a somewhat serious concern for me -- I'm self-employed and finally make a decent living for myself doing what I want to do, but I still don't have much spending money (yet). I'm a musician and I feel extremely proud that my career is finally taking off, but at the moment, I really don't think I can afford fancy restaurants or buying her drinks and flowers regularly. Would this be a deal-breaker for most women, even though I still feel really confident? Unless you invite her over on the second date for frozen pigs in a blanket, a quality woman, who likes you for you, will not mind this. Happy to hear the date went well, it seems to be going around this week.
welikeincrowds Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Should I call her today and say I had a nice time or wait until I see her at rehearsal? YES! Call her, text her, send her a carrier pigeon -- just let her know you had a great time. You can also tell her you're going out of town but that you'll see her at the rehearsal on Wednesday. She will really appreciate it.
Author Pianoguy Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Alright, package delivered yesterday! Got her voicemail, but I'll see her on Wednesday and go from there. I'm thinking I'll plan to take her out to a movie on Friday. Honestly, I'd rather just make dinner and invite her over for a movie, but I'll take it slow for now.
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