Pfiend101 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 So I met this girl on OKC. Sent her some messages and she gave me her # I called her and set up a date last night to go to the fair today. I told her I would call her at 11:30 to get directions to her place and drive from there. 11:30 rolls around and I call. Goes to voicemail. I leave a message "hey its xxx calling to get directions to your place. Give me a call back" 45 minutes later nothing. So i try one more time and this time her phone is shut off. Told her I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt but I see where this is going. Call back in 20 minutes or forget it SO FRUSTRATED. I'm a hell of a guy too its driving me nuts. What kind of a person talks on the phone to someone and AGREES to meet them the next day then dissapears. Someone that has Issues. Fck it. I'm done trying. Most people dont have any god damn values these days.
Author Pfiend101 Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 Starting to believe that I have to stop looking to every find anything. lol It's comical. I'm not letting it ruin my day. I already called up a buddy and we are gonna go.
welikeincrowds Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Good. She's an *******, that's life. Don't give up because one person gave you a hard time. Many people will.
USMCHokie Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I leave a message "hey its xxx calling to get directions to your place. Give me a call back" 45 minutes later nothing. So i try one more time and this time her phone is shut off. Told her I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt but I see where this is going. Call back in 20 minutes or forget it She wouldn't have gotten a second call from me. Insta-LAUNCH. I know it's frustrating, but these women are just filtering themselves out of the running, which makes it easier for you in the end.
PhillyDude Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Yeah she got a better option, happens to all of us
dispatch3d Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 She wouldn't have gotten a second call from me. Insta-LAUNCH. I know it's frustrating, but these women are just filtering themselves out of the running, which makes it easier for you in the end. agree, two calls too many. If she flakes its her problem not mine.
sanskrit Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 OP in the future for the first date arrange to meet out. Women can get antsy about having a stranger pick them up at their house on a first date, they will tell friends, females and c-blocking men, and they will all say "ARE YOU CRAZY?! having a strange internet man pick you up at your house?" Avoid that particular flake-bait by meeting out on first dates.
USMCHokie Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 OP in the future for the first date arrange to meet out. Women can get antsy about having a stranger pick them up at their house on a first date, they will tell friends, females and c-blocking men, and they will all say "ARE YOU CRAZY?! having a strange internet man pick you up at your house?" Avoid that particular flake-bait by meeting out on first dates. This is an excellent point...always meet somewhere for the first date...
Author Pfiend101 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Good point never thought of that. She doesnt know if im a creeper or not true. I said I can either pick you up or we can meet there. She wanted me to pick her up. So meh next time I'll have the woman meet me.
D-Lish Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I agree with San and Chokie... Also- maybe make the first date less lengthy- try for coffee or a drink. Going to the fair is spending the day together, that can feel overwhelming. Also, if you pick her up, you are in charge of dropping her off, so she has no way out (and neither do you) if you have no chemistry. I like to make the first date short and sweet. If we meet and like each other, great, we can extend it- but if we meet and don't have chemistry, we can part on our our terms in our own cars. Meeting a stranger is a daunting task, so the key is to make the first meeting low pressure. Maybe she bailed because the thought of spending the whole day together was a little much for the first meeting? Don't give up- it's not rejection when you haven't met yet.
Lemontang Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I'm so with D-Lish on this. I do this on 1st meet ups. Place I live has a great coffee joint connected to an art gallery. I find if the meet goes well we'll check out the gallery only to leave at the other end across the road to a Winery cafe and have a few drinks and move from there. It kind of gives me 2 to 3 chances to say thanks but no thanks whilst I suss them out but in a relaxed public environment. I call to let them know I'm on my way soon after we've set the date/time. But if I miss them and don't hear anything within an hour I just make other plans so I don't waste my day or evening. In short have a contingency so your not stuck looking at your phone waiting for 'that' call only to get all bent up if he/she doesn't. If your doing other stuff then you're not really going to be bothered about it.
RedPill Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Sorry, she's just not that into you. Next time don't call twice.
Author Pfiend101 Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Regardless people who make plans with someone. Then fall off the face of the earth when its time to meet up without even some BS excuse. Should be locked away forever. Where's everyone's values? What has happened to honesty?
Lemontang Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Simple, some people are just like this, you don't need to agree with it, but it's just how it is, call them cowards, time wasters or chumps. But then do you really want to spend time with someone who has those kind of values? Best to scratch the horse before the gates open at the races.
irc333 Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Hope yall aren't making it sound like "Well, he should've come up with a better way to meet for a first date, otherwise she would've stood him up" lol Either way, even if she probably agreed to meet him in a public place, the same thing would have happened. I'm so with D-Lish on this. I do this on 1st meet ups. Place I live has a great coffee joint connected to an art gallery. I find if the meet goes well we'll check out the gallery only to leave at the other end across the road to a Winery cafe and have a few drinks and move from there. It kind of gives me 2 to 3 chances to say thanks but no thanks whilst I suss them out but in a relaxed public environment. I call to let them know I'm on my way soon after we've set the date/time. But if I miss them and don't hear anything within an hour I just make other plans so I don't waste my day or evening. In short have a contingency so your not stuck looking at your phone waiting for 'that' call only to get all bent up if he/she doesn't. If your doing other stuff then you're not really going to be bothered about it.
Tiberius Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 So I met this girl on OKC. Sent her some messages and she gave me her # I called her and set up a date last night to go to the fair today. I told her I would call her at 11:30 to get directions to her place and drive from there. 11:30 rolls around and I call. Goes to voicemail. I leave a message "hey its xxx calling to get directions to your place. Give me a call back" 45 minutes later nothing. So i try one more time and this time her phone is shut off. Told her I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt but I see where this is going. Call back in 20 minutes or forget it SO FRUSTRATED. I'm a hell of a guy too its driving me nuts. What kind of a person talks on the phone to someone and AGREES to meet them the next day then dissapears. Someone that has Issues. Fck it. I'm done trying. Most people dont have any god damn values these days. Maybe she wants to be chased. If you relly want to nail her, try to play her game and bag her. If that is the case remember to end it at some point though. Could be she is just inconsiderate.
irc333 Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Maybe she wants to be chased. This is something stalkers say.
sanskrit Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Hope yall aren't making it sound like "Well, he should've come up with a better way to meet for a first date, otherwise she would've stood him up" lol Either way, even if she probably agreed to meet him in a public place, the same thing would have happened. That's exactly what I'm saying. Learned that whether one is flaked on for a first date can be influenced by logistics. Have seen enough threads on forums like this where a woman has an internet date she hasn't met coming to her house to pick her up and is freaking out a bit wondering if she should cancel. Most of the forum posters tell her not to have a strange man to her house on a first date. Also agree that long involved first dates are more likely to be flaked on. But it's true that some flakes are gonna flake no matter what.
BobSacamento Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 You have to treat women on dating sites like frightened squirrels your trying to feed out of the palm of your hand. So basically no sudden movements. Things like "Hey I'll be over in 15mins to pick you up, what's your address?" Is like jumping up and waving your hands like a raving lunatic. I think you could still salvage this. Just message back and say "Hey I think I may have jumped the gun a bit." And ask to meet up for coffee at XXX on ZZZ. It's worth a shot. It works for me 100% of the time.
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