Lovelybird Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I often hear people say flirt with opposite sex. In this case, how do you define flirt and how do you handle it? If you go out with your bf/gf, and your bf/gf talk with another woman/man. To what degree you define he/she is flirting, what is simply talking to another opposite sex person? and if he/she is flirting, how do you handle that situation?
tfkizzle Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I'm sure it means different things to different people. I'm watching The Weight of Water at the moment, not sure if you're familiar with the story, but for example: There's a scene where a married couple is on a boat with another couple (not married). The brother's girlfriend is talking to the husband about the husband's poetry, and she starts quoting some of his poems to him. On the surface it seems completely innocuous, but there is something about the scene (both in the novel and in the movie) that makes the viewer vaguely uncomfortable, that this is going on while the wife is watching and listening. Not that helpful, but it's what popped into my head. Are you having a problem with this in your relationship?
Feelin Frisky Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 A girl who I used to work with had a bunch of foil-covered chocolate balls one afternoon on the job. She came up to me in front of several of the female typists whom I supervised, extended her hand with a chocolate in it and said: "hey Jim, ya wanna ball?" Being prepared to flirt as I always am, I immediately opened my top desk drawer and took out a screw that had come out of a chair. I quickly presented it to her and said "only if ya really wanna screw". My readiness to take a flirt and give one resulted in a blanket flirt that got a bunch of smiles from the hens in my immediate viscinity. But in actuality all that was going on was Barbara D. asking me if I wanted a piece of chocolate. Extract definition of flirting as one sees fit.
Author Lovelybird Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 I'm sure it means different things to different people. I'm watching The Weight of Water at the moment, not sure if you're familiar with the story, but for example: There's a scene where a married couple is on a boat with another couple (not married). The brother's girlfriend is talking to the husband about the husband's poetry, and she starts quoting some of his poems to him. On the surface it seems completely innocuous, but there is something about the scene (both in the novel and in the movie) that makes the viewer vaguely uncomfortable, that this is going on while the wife is watching and listening. Not that helpful, but it's what popped into my head. Are you having a problem with this in your relationship? um, I am thinking that there are things you cannot dig too deep, especially about human brain. I guess every couple on the earth has met this situation, and everyone has been to both sides. I have talked to my friend's boyfriend, do I want to get him? not really. I guess everyone wants to get attention from time to time. and other women have talked (maybe flirt) with my male friend, do they want to get him? i don't know:D, maybe they do. now I am thinking the smartest thing maybe is not dwelling on it A girl who I used to work with had a bunch of foil-covered chocolate balls one afternoon on the job. She came up to me in front of several of the female typists whom I supervised, extended her hand with a chocolate in it and said: "hey Jim, ya wanna ball?" Being prepared to flirt as I always am, I immediately opened my top desk drawer and took out a screw that had come out of a chair. I quickly presented it to her and said "only if ya really wanna screw". My readiness to take a flirt and give one resulted in a blanket flirt that got a bunch of smiles from the hens in my immediate viscinity. But in actuality all that was going on was Barbara D. asking me if I wanted a piece of chocolate. Extract definition of flirting as one sees fit. wow, I am speechless
sanskrit Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 (edited) If you go out with your bf/gf, and your bf/gf talk with another woman/man. If the man/BF speaks to a woman, any woman, he is flirting with her. For instance, the obvious flirt, "I'll have iced tea please." The woman/GF is not flirting, though, until she is actually blowing a guy in the bathroom. She is free to allow strangers to give her backrubs, grab her ass, grind dance with her, even dry hump her leg... not flirting until the bathroom BJ. That's how it works. Edited September 25, 2010 by sanskrit
Author Lovelybird Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 If the man/BF speaks to a woman, any woman, he is flirting with her. For instance, the obvious flirt, "I'll have iced tea please." The woman/GF is not flirting, though, until she is actually blowing a guy in the bathroom. She is free to allow strangers to give her backrubs, grab her ass, grind dance with her, even dry hump her leg... not flirting until the bathroom BJ. That's how it works. you are an angry human being
Arbitrariness Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I think the conversation becomes flirtatious when one person acts out of character when talking alone with another, in order to obtain a specific emotional response (usually positive). I think its the combination of verbal and body language cues that make it obvious. I don't understand sandskirt's response as flirting is a two way street.
New Again Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 um, I am thinking that there are things you cannot dig too deep, especially about human brain. I guess every couple on the earth has met this situation, and everyone has been to both sides. I have talked to my friend's boyfriend, do I want to get him? not really. I guess everyone wants to get attention from time to time. and other women have talked (maybe flirt) with my male friend, do they want to get him? i don't know:D, maybe they do. now I am thinking the smartest thing maybe is not dwelling on it Depends on how you're talking, what is said, if there is touching involved, etc. I have also read that book, and it's about perception, and yes there is an affair.
sanskrit Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 you are an angry human being Funny that, as I was laughing and smiling when I typed the reply. How do we know each other again exactly? or rather how is it that you know me well enough to know that I am an "angry human being?"
Author Lovelybird Posted September 25, 2010 Author Posted September 25, 2010 Funny that, as I was laughing and smiling when I typed the reply. How do we know each other again exactly? or rather how is it that you know me well enough to know that I am an "angry human being?" I don't know you enough, but what you wrote shows you don't respect woman, probably lots of anger issues with women
sanskrit Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 I don't know you enough, but what you wrote shows you don't respect woman, probably lots of anger issues with women So if I were to seriously state, as opposed to jokingly, that different rules apply to women and men in relationships as far as acceptable flirting is concerned generally, and this comes from my specific experiences and those of my many friends, male and female, that means I don't respect "women?" and am "angry with women? How exactly? Moreover, I don't know all women, how could I possibly not respect "women" or be "angry with women" as a whole?
tami-chan Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 If the man/BF speaks to a woman, any woman, he is flirting with her. For instance, the obvious flirt, "I'll have iced tea please." That is definitely flirting!!!!! The non-flirting way would be "ice tea, make it quick". !
tami-chan Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 you are an angry human being *gasp*...I think he was not serious....! He is buddhist , for buddha's sake!...or are you, sanskrit? LO!!
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