Emotion vs. Intellect

[espec10001]

I have an issue. I used to be very popular with the ladies. In fact I never really had to do anything they just came to me.

 

But I learned through these intimate relationships with women that I am very emotionally vulnerable. And I didn't like that. My emotions were fully exposed the longer I stayed with these women, and what I found got me in serious trouble.

 

My last relationship was over 5 years ago, and due to whatever circumstances I haven't been interested in dating or really even tried to "get out there". I've also developed a sort of "aversion" to emotion, and as hard as it is for me to believe, I may have become "emotionally unavailable".

 

My logic tells me that love and emotional bonds between people to be absurd and foolish. There seems to be a huge falsity and contradiction when two people fall in love. Emotions seem to get people in trouble, while the intellect seems to help people.

 

For example, I work in an office where pretty much all my coworkers are married. When we have special office dinners or activities they always are paired up. And I'm the single one. Yet, I perceive things from this point of view which tells me these unions are false in some way, yet I do not fully understand how. And the only way in which I can analyze "love" from this perspective is to remain aloof and detached.

 

Has anyone else experienced something like this?

[shayan]

I feel as though you can not rationally cut emotions out of your life. Perhaps you have suppressed them over the past five years. I believe that life is less fulfilling when we don't experience things on an emotional level because then we become spiritually drained. 3 years ago I was feeling this way very emotionally detached from everything because I was so focused on my schooling and science and reason. I then began a dramatic shift towards finding my true identity and as I spent my time understanding myself I found that I was quite an emotional person. I think emotions have a time and a place and it is ok to experience them just not to be flooded by them when other people are around. Otherwise sometimes I just play very dramatic piano music and cry or dance, or whatever. Without emotion life is too dry and boring, and to rationalize that relationships are faulty because they are partly built on an emotional foundation is self limiting. Our hearts are very powerful and an essential part of experiencing life. I think you have to ask yourself some important questions why did my emotions make me vulnreable? Was it because I was worried what others thought, or was it because I allowed other people to manipulate me by using them? Instigate the nature of your problem and work on it. Emotions don't have to be weaknesses if we know how to properly conduct and experience them, and share them. So it's ok to start experiencing them again and opening up to the world, and you should trust yourself because you know what mistake you made in the past that made you so vulnerable. Good Luck, your heart wants to open again that's why you wrote this post.