How "gym" oriented are you? *Long*

[irc333]

I don't know how to ask this....but when it comes to looks, I'm not all THAT picky...I've even found myself attracted to some "chunky" ladies, but typically they are blessed with having filled out in all the right places.

 

Myself, I'm not a gym rat, or all that buff, but lean (not a runner by any means) , but I am active to a certain extent.

 

I walk to stay in shape (daily), and I work out the "budgetary" way...push ups and sit ups in the morning (mixed in with some other basic excercise that I printed off from the internet).

 

When I actually used to go to the gym, I would do it 3 days a week, probably an hour or so working out on the equipment (at that time it was an employee benefit, so I took advantage of it)

 

Just to give an example here, I saw this VERY hot latina/caucasion mix of a woman, 5'1" petite lady, great curves, but you could tell she keeps in shape. And she states she works out FIVE days a week, not into cardio, but likes free weights.

 

She says she is looking for a guy that takes care of himself as she does.

 

Of course, I don't work out 5 days a week, so she probably focuses more on specfiic muscle groups, perhaps a regiman, and such.

 

Though, I've emailed women that weren't in shape at all (but nice figures), with no response either, so maybe it's all moot? lol

 

Of course, I've seen attractive women that work out not so much either. Typically they were skinny, had a cute but, but you can see a little diff. between their butt, and a "work out" butt.

 

Funny thing, I saw a before and after photo of a hot woman one time, on a social networking site....you could hardly tell the difference....if you looked closely, you could barely see the difference in improvement, but I guess she was just as hot in bikini "soft" as she was "toned"....<shrug> go figure.

 

That one was not even over weight (the before and after woman).

 

And I know a female beach body coach, I asked her opinion about dating other people in shape (or not so much in shape, but can hack certian activities) and she said she really never had those kinds of expectations in the guy she dated...she said she's dated ALL types...from a chubby to buff as Arnold, short, tall, bald, etc.

 

OF COURSE, she does not do online dating either...so....that's probably why she isn't picky, because she has no access to online dating, because online dating allows people to be more picky (but that's an entirely diff. conversation altogether). She's always meeting guys face to face at public places, and probably even overlooks appearances, because she's focused on "them" their personality and attitude.

 

It was thier attitude and personality she was attracted to....as longas they were reasonable looking, cleaned up nice, and straight laced, she dated all types, she didn't have the, "I work out 5 days a week, run 20 miles in a week, so YOU should to" attitude.

 

I know there are "soft" guys and gals out there that still look relatively decent. Even the soft "chunky" women are attractive (at least to me)

 

So I was wondering, if I see a profile of such a woman I have seen above, am I really hitting out of my league (of course, I've seen her in my geographic area constantly, where she lives, it's mostly pot-bellied rednecks, and all the hot guys are married/taken, that's what happens when you're a hot chick in a hick town.....you're options are very little, lol)

 

But, my question is this,.....to what EXTENT do you expect your mate to be in shape?

 

Or perhaps, "Hey, as long as they are slender, or have curves, who cares?"

 

I think to guys, it's more like 'As long as she's not overweight, I'm fine with it"

 

Any views, opinions, on this etc?

 

I found it kind of ironic that this one woman I mentioned in the profile, she doesn't do cardio.....figured most women were "cardio bunnys" at the gym, meaning they don't touch weights, just the treadmill or stair master and that's it.

 

So keeping up with her would be no problem, lol...because she doesn't do cardio.

 

I was just wondering, because there's a lot of variables to consider here and such.

Edited September 24, 2010 by irc333

[tman666]

Well, being a very "training oriented" person myself, it really boils down to me not giving a rats ass about what my partner does or doesn't do. My training is entirely my own thing. I train. Rain, shine, snow, fatigue, anger, happiness: I train. It's a part of who I am. This isn't to say I don't like to share, of course. My current girlfriend is also my training partner, not out of any expectation of mine, but because she's a "training oriented" individual as well. It works out great for us.

 

Personally, I definitely don't really care if a girl does the same things as me or not. The main thing for me is whether or not she takes care of herself. If a daily walk keeps her looking and feeling hot and confident, then that's great. If she's really into rock climbing or yoga or whatever and it keeps her looking and feeling great, then I'm all for it. She doesn't have to be in the gym pulling heavy deadlifts (though this is, admittedly, a turn on). What I absolutely cannot stand is a significant other who is lazy, constantly needs reassurance about their sexiness and looks (underconfident), and is overly insecure.

 

I have noticed a trend that associates those who train in something with having less of these negative tendencies than a person who doesn't do much of anything. I know there are plenty of exceptions in either camp, but I would definitely see it as a red flag if a girl I was interested in was not involved in some sort of physical activity.

[irc333]

I could be wrong here, but I've noticed that sometimes fit women in gyms, tend to be turned off by some of the mucleheads, because these guys are more into tHEMSELVES than into women.

 

They get off looking at themselves in the mirrors int he gym, and so on.

 

Some of these women tend to avoid such guys, and tend to date mildly fit men or just thin men.

 

 

Well, being a very "training oriented" person myself, it really boils down to me not giving a rats ass about what my partner does or doesn't do. My training is entirely my own thing. I train. Rain, shine, snow, fatigue, anger, happiness: I train. It's a part of who I am. This isn't to say I don't like to share, of course. My current girlfriend is also my training partner, not out of any expectation of mine, but because she's a "training oriented" individual as well. It works out great for us.

 

Personally, I definitely don't really care if a girl does the same things as me or not. The main thing for me is whether or not she takes care of herself. If a daily walk keeps her looking and feeling hot and confident, then that's great. If she's really into rock climbing or yoga or whatever and it keeps her looking and feeling great, then I'm all for it. She doesn't have to be in the gym pulling heavy deadlifts (though this is, admittedly, a turn on). What I absolutely cannot stand is a significant other who is lazy, constantly needs reassurance about their sexiness and looks (underconfident), and is overly insecure.

 

I have noticed a trend that associates those who train in something with having less of these negative tendencies than a person who doesn't do much of anything. I know there are plenty of exceptions in either camp, but I would definitely see it as a red flag if a girl I was interested in was not involved in some sort of physical activity.

[tman666]

I could be wrong here, but I've noticed that sometimes fit women in gyms, tend to be turned off by some of the mucleheads, because these guys are more into tHEMSELVES than into women.

 

They get off looking at themselves in the mirrors int he gym, and so on.

 

Some of these women tend to avoid such guys, and tend to date mildly fit men or just thin men.

 

I suppose I can see some argument for this, but I hate it when people assume that just because someone is strong or is built that they are somehow more into themselves than an average person.

 

Out of all the big strong guys I know, none of them "get off" by looking at themselves in a mirror. In fact, most of the bodybuilders I have seen and met tend to practice their posing in private.

 

I'm sure there are cases in every gym of a meathead that would rather show off and stroke his own ego than be into a woman, but I think that this generalization does not apply to probably 90 percent of the so called meatheads out there. Narcissism is a personality flaw that is not exclusive to the bodybuilding community. Just look at all those sensitive "hipsters" that spend hours each day TRYING to look disheveled. Those guys and girls are pretty damn androgynous, and the self righteous attitudes that we're talking about run rampant in their social circle.

 

Being in good shape has never hurt my relations with the womenfolk. Just sayin'.

[USMCHokie]

I suppose I can see some argument for this, but I hate it when people assume that just because someone is strong or is built that they are somehow more into themselves than an average person.

 

This. I have come to understand that most hostility towards those who are in shape is simply projection from those who aren't in shape and don't value the work and discipline required to stay in shape...it's just people valuing different things...and just because one person values health and fitness doesn't make them "more into themselves" than another person.

 

That being said, I don't care how gym-oriented a woman is...if she works out a lot, great; if she doesn't, that's fine too, as long as she values her health and fitness to some extent...she may enjoy participating in sports or outdoor activities instead of toiling within the confines of a gym...

 

I don't place any expectations on a woman I'm dating...but the funny thing is, they are usually the ones who are unhappy because they inadvertantly place an expectation on themselves...thinking that I'd expect them to be in similar shape to me...

[johan]

All is vanity.

[sanskrit]

I am not a body fanatic at all, but go to the gym five+ times a week for cardio and circuit training. Would love to have a GF who would do that with me, but have never had one who would. Most women I have dated address their fitness issues via diet rather than exercise, and my gym runs about 75-25 men/women even including classes. As far as body preference, I do not like the emaciated, stringy six pack "aerobics queen" look in women no matter how much they try to hide the gauntness using a tanning bed. I understand that look is hard to get, and respect them for that effort, it is just a personal turnoff for me.

 

Women tend to like me more with a 34" waist and 46" chest than a 32" waist and 44" chest or smaller.

[irc333]

I'm more into the "Kim Kardassian" build. ;-) Have to love those curves. lol

 

No one beats the aerobics queen "Bess Motta" if ya remember her. ;-) And she's still looking l ovely these days.

 

 

Have you ever met people that were fit, but told you that they "hate running", basically, they'll do short bursts of activities here and there, but long distance running for them is something they don't like doing?

 

I personally could never be a long distance runner, just not my thing I guess, but I do commend those that do it though.

 

About the dudes that are somewhat showin' off in front of the mirrors, I also hear complaints of "those guys" doing the extra long and loud grunts when they doing heavy weights.

 

THOSE people feel "those guys" are trying to draw attention to themselves and such. Wether that's true or not, I have no idea.

 

 

 

 

I am not a body fanatic at all, but go to the gym five+ times a week for cardio and circuit training. Would love to have a GF who would do that with me, but have never had one who would. Most women I have dated address their fitness issues via diet rather than exercise, and my gym runs about 75-25 men/women even including classes. As far as body preference, I do not like the emaciated, stringy six pack "aerobics queen" look in women no matter how much they try to hide the gauntness using a tanning bed. I understand that look is hard to get, and respect them for that effort, it is just a personal turnoff for me.

 

Women tend to like me more with a 34" waist and 46" chest than a 32" waist and 44" chest or smaller.

Edited September 25, 2010 by irc333

[USMCHokie]

Have you ever met people that were fit, but told you that they "hate running", basically, they'll do short bursts of activities here and there, but long distance running for them is something they don't like doing?

 

Yes. Me. I hate running. I only do it for tanning purposes. And I'm not joking...not even slighty...

[kpax]

As a female, just looking for guys to be in shape in a normal way. Looking healthy depending on your body type.

 

I like it when a guy works out (although this is in no way the first thing I consider in someone) unless they take it too far.

 

No offense to any of the guys who work out here - I am directing this at people who take it too far - but I dated a guy competing in bodybuilding and it ended up being a real turnoff. He was very good looking to begin with but was ruining his looks by bulking up so much.

 

Plus he was OBSESSED...eating regimented meals 6 times a day, no carbs; meaning we practically couldn't eat out anywhere and he spent 2-3 hours in the gym DAILY. It was all he talked about. After a short time I began to suspect he had a problem...it was like reverse anorexia or something...instead of starving like an anorexic would for an imagined ideal look, he was force feeding and working out like a crazy person and starting to look like a freak; bulging veins, walked funny, arms couldn't lay flat against his sides, etc.

 

He didn't realize people were making fun of him either. He thought he was attracting all of that attention because he looked GOOD. I was actually a little embarrased, but he was so arrogant I didn't feel sorry for him. He primped and fussed with his appearance way more than most women.

 

So, if guys think every woman is looking for a guy like that, trust me they are not.

[Lakeside_runner]

Yes. Me. I hate running. I only do it for tanning purposes. And I'm not joking...not even slighty...

 

I am... disappointed... somehow... I don't know why...

 

But to answer OP's question - I love sporty girls. Seriously, it's to the extent that I even prefer a sporty outfit (even sweatpants) over skirts, dresses, whatever, you name it. There is nothing better than a sporty athletic girl in a nice relaxed low-key sporty outfit

[sanskrit]

Have you ever met people that were fit, but told you that they "hate running", basically, they'll do short bursts of activities here and there, but long distance running for them is something they don't like doing?

 

I personally could never be a long distance runner, just not my thing I guess, but I do commend those that do it though.

 

Yes. Me. I hate running. I only do it for tanning purposes. And I'm not joking...not even slighty...

 

Make that three. Having had severe shin splints my entire life, warming up to run a long distance without excruciating pain takes much longer than any benefit received is worth. People are learning more and more that high impact exercise is counterproductive in important ways. You can get the same benefit intermittently sprinting on a treadmill in much less time. Running is a great hobby for those who enjoy it, but it isn't particularly efficient or healthy exercise

[USMCHokie]

I am... disappointed... somehow... I don't know why...

 

Heh...sorry...

[Pfiend101]

you look like your in pretty good shape hokie. How often do you lift at the gym?

[USMCHokie]

you look like your in pretty good shape hokie. How often do you lift at the gym?

 

Thanks. 4 days a week.

[Sphere]

Every once in a while I'll spend an hour or so running on a treadmill doing long distance, but recently I've been sprinting at 15kph for around 10 minutes and that does more for me than just jogging for an hour.

 

I'm doing it for a job that I've got lined up for next year, so I've got a solid year to work on my fitness.

[johan]

People think there's a lot of flame and heat in Hell. They are wrong. Hell is full of treadmills.

[sanskrit]

People think there's a lot of flame and heat in Hell. They are wrong. Hell is full of treadmills.

 

Interesting. I think hell is full of televisions with one channel showing nothing but tween girly-man idol music videos endlessly looping with tabloid shows of who is cheating on whom, maybe to watch while strapped down on the hellish treadmills.

[johan]

You may be right.