Jeff M Stevens Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I thought this would be a great thread for those sick of the bar/nightclub scene to meet women in. I'm not saying its impossible to meet women in bars/nightclubs but in my experience, its been tougher. I have my list below but feel free to add to it. I think this could be great information for anyone looking outside of bars/nightclubs to meet women. By the way, the women on the site are going to probably say "well, why don't you list places to meet men? Why does it have to be about meeting women?" Simply, I'm a guy that loves women so I seek places to meet women and not men so I don't know where to meet men I do encourage a lady to start a thread called "Places To Meet Men, Other Than Bars/Nightclubs Having said my "disclaimer" lets roll *Online Dating Sites (self-explanatory) *Speed Dating (you get 3 to 8 minutes per woman and generally you meet 20-30 women per night) *Dance Lessons (lots of women in the class, very few guys and women love to dance) *MeetUp.com (people of similar interests "meet up" in their cities---and no, I do not have anything to do with the site so don't report that I'm trying to drive traffic to it....LOL ) *Classes or seminars (pretty low key environments and the women there are bound to have similar interests to you) *The Workplace (definitely the most pitfalls exist here since this is where you derive your living so be careful) *Volunteer Work (like classes or seminars, very low key, you have similar interests and a bonus is the ladies you meet are probably giving types of people) All right, you go ahead an add to my list
mogul Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Do you mean its harder to meet women at clubs/bars, or start a quality relationship with the women you meet through the night scene. This may require another thread, but I seem to find it easier to meet women through bars and clubs. Typically on a night out, I would meet someone and hang out with them right after the club nearby and get their number and keep in contact through out the week. It would be fun for a few days, though a serious relationship wouldn't come of it. Is there anything wrong with me for this, or how I don't seem to meet as much women in my day to day activities?
Cee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Wouldn't it be okay to allow women to contribute to thread, since men & women are meeting in the same places (unless you are gay/lesbian)? I'll contribute to the list, then. I'll only mention places I've actually gotten a date or was approached. Facebook Myspace (twice - good dates, btw) Twitter (twice - not good dates) OKC, Match, PoF (no surprise) Political meet up group (good success) Parties Through hanging with a group of friends & their friends Work (bad idea) Dating a peer in at a "sister" organization (worked great) College (great) & Grad school (meh) Art openings (didn't get a date, but good flirting) Trains, planes, buses (nothing materializes, but passes time) Cruises (got a serious boyfriend out of this & some fun) Concerts Conference (excellent way, imo) There's probably others. Been dating 25 years so that's why it's a long list.
Author Jeff M Stevens Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 Thanks Mogul...you're right....I should have clarified..... The thread should rightly be entitled "Places To Meet Women, For A Relationship, Other Than Bars/NightClubs" If you're looking for a one night stand or a brief encounter, then there is a whole different dynamic that you might flourish in as far as bars/nightclubs go, but my post was about relationships. Thanks for the back up
Author Jeff M Stevens Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 Yes, Cee, of course it is GREAT for women to contribute, especially if you can offer places you've been approached. I just put my "disclaimer" in there so women didn't think that I was ignoring them by putting places to meet women in the title. I REALLY APPRECIATE your contribution
Author Jeff M Stevens Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 I do not think there is anything wrong with you. It just sounds as if you have concentrated on bars/clubs. I bet if you take some of the suggestions that this thread will offer, you'll probably start to meet women outside of bars/clubs.
Cee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Thanks, Jeff. I'll list the only places I've had a relationship now. I count a relationship as we mutually agree that we are boyfriend and girlfriend: Bar High School College Friend's party Cruise 12 step group People in my extended peer network (can't remember how we met) Colleague at a peer organization I think that pretty much covers it. Haven't been at all successful with finding a relationship via online dating.
Author Jeff M Stevens Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 Cee, THANKS again..now that you're contributing, can you tell me what type of guy that you look for in a relationship? In other words, what kind of qualities do you seek? I think it might be interesting for guys on this thread to read what a woman finds attractive from the approach to the time you decide to become boyfriend/girlfriend Thanks
gypsy_nicky Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 having experienced a negative dating experience in my workplace I also wonder why most here do not advocate it? Is it mostly because of the consequences of it not working out or is it the gossip that destroys potential relationships? From what I've seen its mostly the gossip that ruins the relationship.
Cee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Cee, THANKS again..now that you're contributing, can you tell me what type of guy that you look for in a relationship? In other words, what kind of qualities do you seek? I think it might be interesting for guys on this thread to read what a woman finds attractive from the approach to the time you decide to become boyfriend/girlfriend Thanks Jeff, I think I'm nontraditional on this board so I don't know if I can help. But here's my background. I'm 40 and don't want marriage or kids. Also, I am financially secure in a modest job. I don't need anybody to take care of me. I want a partner, but my life is great w/o one. My main criteria are: -Attractive (height/build don't matter, but I like nice hair) -Intelligence manifested in sharp wit & perceptiveness. Books smarts is ok, but not needed. I've dated college drop outs & was happy. -Similar political persuasion and ethical values -Can hold his own social situations & has his own friends/life -Somewhat non-traditional (ie. took the road not taken in some way) and... Is into me and wants a relationship with me! I think it's important to keep what I like very simple. I don't have the luxury to be picky about minor details (eye color, build, occupation, etc.). When I was younger, I didn't have many criteria except that he was good looking and "cool" and interesting in some way. I don't know if this is helpful. Every woman is different.
shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 having experienced a negative dating experience in my workplace I also wonder why most here do not advocate it? Is it mostly because of the consequences of it not working out or is it the gossip that destroys potential relationships? From what I've seen its mostly the gossip that ruins the relationship. I would guess mostly the awkwardness that ensues if it doesn't work out, and most relationships don't.
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