Sweetie1977 Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Weve been seeing each other for a little over a month and hes a great guy sweet caring etc but hes way too easy going,he says he doesnt like confrontation or arguments That doesnt sound like a problem but us women deep down are submissive at some level and want our Man to take control and run things and let us know what is what If im beign bitchy i need somebody to take me down from my perch and make me feel feminine and submissive i dotn want to be the one with the final say or the loudest opinion it makes me fele masculine Is it too much to ask for me to want him to be more argumentive and opinonated and put me in my place?
2sure Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I understand wanting one partner in a relationship to take the lead. To a degree I understand that it makes you feel more feminine if the male has the lead. But what you describe sounds demeaning, for you and for him. What you describe is not someone taking the lead but disciplining a subordinate. If you want a supervisor, they are out there but you should be aware that the type of man who treats his partner that way does not confine that behavior to conversations and disagreements about where to eat.
Stung Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I guess this particular troll got tired of talking about relative height.
sanskrit Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Why not try keeping yourself in line as opposed to expecting others to do it?
Woggle Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Are you not a grown woman? Why do you need a man to put you in your place as if he was your father? What is so wrong with practicing self control on your own instead? Maybe this guy feels no need to create drama where it is not needed. Women say all the time they don't want to be a mother to a man which is understanable but at the same most men do not want to be a father to a grown woman either.
PJKino Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Are women ever satisfied? What kind of whackjob needs drama andarguemnts? I always thought being easy going was a plus i guess i have to get a dooshbag side to me otherwise women will get bored
Cracker Jack Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I guess this particular troll got tired of talking about relative height. Lol. Was thinking the same thing.
Eeyore79 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I don't mind being spanked if I've been naughty, but I don't really want arguments. There are better ways of feeling feminine and submissive than being bullied by a man!
ConflictedGuy27 Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Is it too much to ask for me to want him to... put me in my place? hot... maybe it's the fact that my main squeeze left town for two weeks, but there's something about a woman asking to be "put in her place" that's crazy hot & ego gratifying... IMHO. I'd love to put my woman in her place right about now... -,-"
make me believe Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 If that's what you want in a guy then maybe you two just aren't compatible. Nothing wrong with that. Find someone who "puts you in your place" and let this guy find someone who likes him as he is.
9Lives Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 this is kinda bananas! this sounds really stupid to want a man to kinda push you around. but what I hope you were trying to say is you want a man with backbone who won't just go for anything. I HOPE this is what u tryna say!
Westy Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Yeah, women say that until it happens. My ex-girlfriend used to say the same thing to me, because I am easy going, extremely easy going. There are things that piss me off, and cause me to take control. What happens when that occurs? She gets all whiney and bitchy about it then im forced to use my man voice and she starts crying. Maybe mine was a different situation my ex was a control freak so it astonished me that she wanted me to domineer her every now and again. Because every time I did it she got all bent out of shape because she couldnt handle not being in control, then Id get pissed off and yell her down and she'd run off crying. **** pissed me off to no end.
Lemontang Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Maybe we're missing what's really being said here. Put simply he's just not a challenge for you and that's what your looking for. Someone to not just agree with you on everything, but also have their own opinion on things and push their point of view. I know if a girl I was with just agreed with everything I said and followed me like an obedient puppy without giving her own input on things I'd get bored and lose interest.
sanskrit Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 then im forced to use my man voice Funny and true. Most men just aren't that picky, and seek peace, quiet and harmony. Life and work give us plenty of situations where we have to take control daily such that we want our domestic lives to be more tranquil. Adult women shouldn't have to be disciplined and kept in line like children.
naya1 Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 (edited) well from personal experience it is ok to be dominated like that but it gets old after a while when u need to be there to cater to his every whim. u will start missing the easy going guy im sure. i think u are trying to say u want a guy with more, personality. also, people change. hes probably not gonna be like that forever. btw u guys should quit generalizing one womans post to be "all women". lol ive seen some posts here from men that i was really not happy about, but i was glad to know that not all men were like them. Edited September 25, 2010 by naya1
Woggle Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 Funny and true. Most men just aren't that picky, and seek peace, quiet and harmony. Life and work give us plenty of situations where we have to take control daily such that we want our domestic lives to be more tranquil. Adult women shouldn't have to be disciplined and kept in line like children. Tell me about it. Women have stressful lives too and you would think they would want some peace but I guess not.
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