mrbluenobody Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I've been dating a girl for three months....boyfriend/girlfriend for one month (she asked me to be her boyfriend) and we've been exclusive for two months. I rarely initiated any contact and she would contact me via phone and text several times a day including calling me 1st thing in the morning before work. This went on for two and 1/2 months. Now, for the past two weeks, no more calls in the morning and she rarely texts me or seems to find the time to respond if I text her. Although, she still initiates plans to see me and seems fine when we're together. It almost feels like out of site out of mind. She stated she thinks it just the natural course of a relationship I confronted her about it last night and she stated that she feels like she's walking on eggshells around me if she doesn't act "exactly" the same way towards me every time we're together. For instance...she's always been very affectionate but not as much in the past two weeks. (Maybe I'm pushing her away being too needy and insecure? I haven't been much of a challenge (lately) and don't have any life outside of her so I'm always available. I know, i know....that's the death of attraction right...
a_woman Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 you are not listening to what she is saying. She thinks you are too much hard work and she has lost interest. If she feels she is walking on eggshells around you it means she thinks you are difficult. She wants someone easy going, can't say I blame her. You do sound too much hard work.
Author mrbluenobody Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 Thanks for your honest reply a_woman. It's very obvious to me now. Letting my insecurities get the best of me and potentially ruin our relationship. Wish I could just be more easy going and not read into everything always thinking I'm gonna be dumped any minute.
Dornraben Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Hello. I came across this thread as I suspect that my girlfriend of ~16 months has dumped me for similar reasons* (she did it by text, which shows how far her respect for me must have fallen!). It sounds as though all hope is not lost for you, mrbluenobody. The warning signs are there, but it may be redeemable. One thing you do imply is that she's the one iniating all contact/plans. Women like a man to charge from time to time, so why not change your tactic? (*She started being less interested a while ago, and the further she withdrew, the more bothered I became by it. The stress of starting Uni as a mature student (and having 3 kids) must have made her realise that this relationship would indeed to "too hard" to maintain alongside all that, and so she ended it.)
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