irc333 Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I'm sure men do it, but lately I've seen quite a few profiles of women swearing a lot. Mostly in relation to what kind of guys they do NOT want emailing them. Like, "I can't stand Bullsh*t and stupidty!" or "If you're a D-bag or a prck, don't email me!" Or some other colorful metaphors. Gentlemen, is this a turn off for you, or do you just take it at face value and you just email them anyway?
snowbell Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 The context in which the language is being used just makes the women in question sound negative and, well, b*tchy! So yeah, I would be offended/turned off as a potential date with that kind of tone in a profile. Stuff like that comes across as baggage-y to me. Honestly, the dating profile is pretty much selling yourself. It's like a romantic résumé - they ought to be listing their qualities and traits they'd like to see in a potential date, not the kind of people they can't stand. While I don't have a dating profile, if I were to create one I'd have no qualms about putting expletives in it since that's how I talk in certain social situations. (It's also an age thing: i.e. "I love finding weird-ass obscurities at flea markets." sounds more youthful/casual than "I like to go antiquing!") If I offend a man's delicate sensibilities with such language, then I obviously would not want to date a fellow like him.
Knittress Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Hmm... Interesting! I think I used the word 'Sh*t' in my profile only because I thought 'poop' or 'crap' sounded infantile in the context, and 'feces' was a bit too pompous. I swear casually, but I also think that it can also come across as super aggressive (not from me, I'm just silly). The other day I was in the bathroom and two chicks were talking about their exploits and intentions like two sailors visiting a brothel. They just sounded really ugly and mean, and someone somewhere is going to say I'm setting women back fifty years by saying this, but it was just plain... UNFEMININE.
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 You're setting women back fifty years by saying that! As to the original question, I do find it a turn-off. Not because of the language (as women tend to use worse words than most guys I know, and I know some pretty crazy guys), but because it conveys hostility and it serves no purpose. Sadly, IRC wasn't exaggerating; many people do put dumb things like "I hate people who are into BS"...don't we all? Have you ever seen a profile where someone said "I get all wet when someone lies to me and acts like a d-bag"? Me, neither. If I'm looking at someone as dating potential, I'm looking at their positives, what connections I may make with this person. I want to know what makes them tick, what makes them want to get up in the morning. Those are the kinds of things that will draw people in. It's a chance to sell yourself, and it's hard to do when your advert is full of negatives.
Lady vs Panda Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Have you ever seen a profile where someone said "I get all wet when someone lies to me and acts like a d-bag"? Me, neither. . Now I know what to write if I ever try online dating. F&*k yeah!
jamesum Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Too much swearing is a turn-off for me. It makes you sound unclassy. I rarely use the word 'sh#t' myself.
bobdole Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 many people do put dumb things like "I hate people who are into BS" I want someone "Real", "Down to earth", "not into games". I cringe every time I read those... To the topic of the thread - a swear word in certain contexts don't bother me like "We ran into the giant 3 eye'd, green haired, 10ft Barney dinosaur doll and I thought OH ****!" Its a big turn off when used in a negative, especially against my gender.
SarahRose Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 If the profile picture is a gorgeous female, she could write she bbq kittens on the weekend and the men will still flock to her.
Confusedalways Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 God, I hate when people of either gender do this. I swear as much as anyone in actual conversation, but you sound so unintelligent when you do it. A LOT of men do it too, which I find in seriously poor taste.
LoveAintEverything Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I really do not agree putting it on your profile where a lot of people see it, but what about in front of people. Do guys get turned off when women swear?
jamesum Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I really do not agree putting it on your profile where a lot of people see it, but what about in front of people. Do guys get turned off when women swear? Depends on the guys. I find swearing unclassy so of course I dont like hearing people say it.
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 If the profile picture is a gorgeous female, she could write she bbq kittens on the weekend and the men will still flock to her. Quantity does not equal Quality. Women who curse a lot in a profile will seem very low class to me. Since I'm looking for something more than a roll in the hay, I will skip her.
LisaLee Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 One of the things that I adore about my SO is he does not curse. I have never even heard him take the word "hell" out of context. I have literally never heard him say a bad word. No ass, no damn, and certainly none of the big 4 letter bombers. I swear like a sailor... but I would probably keep the curse words out if I was doing a dating profile. Seems kind of low class for either gender to do it.
Veronica K Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I'm sure men do it, but lately I've seen quite a few profiles of women swearing a lot. Mostly in relation to what kind of guys they do NOT want emailing them. Like, "I can't stand Bullsh*t and stupidty!" or "If you're a D-bag or a prck, don't email me!" Or some other colorful metaphors. Gentlemen, is this a turn off for you, or do you just take it at face value and you just email them anyway? If a man were to have that sort of thing on his profile, it would be a turn off.
Confusedalways Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I just read one that was basically like "if you're going to have any b*tchy drama don't bother" LOL. Like come on.
mortensorchid Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 That's really odd that someone would put swear words in their profile. It's equally as odd when people share things in their profiles (just in the general description fields) about things like "I was married once before, and we tried to have children - after several operations and trips to the fertility clinic our marriage fell apart". Have to be general, and certainly not put it all out on the table. I wouldn't bother with a person who does something like this - because they might end up writing you angry emails when you don't respond ASAP. In short, they're damned crazy.
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