How much do you text/call in relationships?

[DontStopMeNow]

I've been dating this girl for about three weeks. We've spent maybe 7-10 afternoons or evenings together, and its amazing everytime. We always have fun, we're really affectionate with each other, etc.

 

But on the days we don't see each other, we probably only talk 3 times, always by texting, and two or three messages back and forth each time. Usually just saying good morning, seeing how their day is going in the afternoon, and then a few at night.

 

We both seem to prefer texting. She always initiates texts instead of calls. I prefer that too.

 

Is that normal at this point? Does it matter if it stays that way as the relationship progesses? Is it a sign of an unhealthy relationship if things stay that way after say, a few months of dating?

[Fouts]

It sounds normal for the most part, though a quick phone call is sometimes better once in awhile.

[tigressA]

To answer the title question, I'm so out of touch with texting because I haven't had texting on my phone for almost a year. I prefer calling anyway. My BF and I will talk at least once a day, by phone or IM/webcam.

 

That being said, what you're doing seems perfectly fine to me. If at any time you feel uncomfortable with it, just have a talk with her about your expectations for communication. As long as you're on the same wavelength, how you communicate, and how often, doesn't matter.

[carhill]

Given your voluminous personal contact (7-10 times in three weeks), I'd just text (or call) to promote that contact and progress it, rather than as a substitute. Keep it brief and sparse, but meaningful and intimate. I don't text, but understand that many people do. The commonality IMO is that real relationships are built and progressed in person with real physical and emotional contact. Everything else should facilitate that.

 

To me, it sounds like you and she are on the same page. Hope it works out!