conehead Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 He's got a car, but rides motorcylces for fun. Yay or nay? Turn on or turn off??
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 You obviously have some reservation about him because of the bike. May I ask what it is?
Author conehead Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Mainly because it's dangerous. I've been in a few accidents before and came out ok but I think had I been on a motorcycle in those accidents I'd be dead or severly injured by now.
CD111 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Personally I have dated a number of guys with motorcycles. Some rode them occasionally and some rode them all the time. One didn't have a car and rode his numerous bikes. Sure it's dangerous but definitely not a deal breaker. I love to go on rides, but the danger factor is always in the back of my mind. However, part of the fun is that the bikes are fast and dangerous. I love just sitting on the back and watching the world go by feeling the force of the air against me or hitting the tight corners. If this guy rides alot he is probably a pretty good rider so that should be a bit reassuring. I was always concerned for them and sure two had pretty bad wrecks, but both ended up alright in the end. It's just like any other sport, if you play long enough you WILL have a injury or wreck. Now as far as dateable, would you really let a great guy get away or go because he rode his motorcycle alot? It's like not dating a guy because he collects stamps and you don't think that is cool. To me it is a pretty minor detail over all.
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 CD's right; it is dangerous, but road experience does help in that department. I have given friends rides in the past; one girl was so scared at first that she dug her hands into my sides to the point where she left bruises. However, five minutes into the ride, she had relaxed, let go and had her arms spread out like an airplane. We never even came close to crashing, and she's doing just fine. Go for a spin with the guy before you make a decision. It really is a whole different world from what you've seen in a car. You'll soon come to understand why cars/trucks/etc. are referred to as "cages". You'll also find out how he rides, which will quite probably influence your decision. If he's a good rider (and seems good off the bike, too), give him a shot! If he's a squid on the bike, even with a back warmer, then you're probably better off without him. Keep the shiny side up!
lilbunny Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Boys with bikes Not sure I need to add much here!
mark982 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 conehead, i've been riding for 30 years. i look at it this way,if you don't wanna ride, i ain't dating you!
Stung Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 When I was younger, it was a turn-on for me. And then my biker boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident when I was nineteen. A few years later a lifelong friend died in a motorcycle accident, he was only 24 years old when he was decapitated on the Autobahn. Fast forward a few years after that, a guy I was casually dating ended up in a coma for three weeks and then had to go through physical rehabilitation for six months, after, yep, a motorcycle accident. He had been driving motorcycles for twenty years with no problems, and just had a 'bad day'. I wouldn't touch a guy with a motorcycle now with a ten foot pole.
Enema Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Never imagined that being a bike rider could be a deal breaker. I'm not going to attempt to convince you about what I see as a misconception when it comes to motorcycle danger. We have it, along with tailored stats and anecdotal evidence shoved down our throats from such a young age that it's difficult to be unbiased. I'd suggest not dating the guy. If it's even a question in your mind, it'll probably cause a problem later if you get serious. Eg. You may subconsciously poison the relationship by arguing about spending money on the bike, or riding the bike instead of spending time with you.
D-Lish Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 My last more serious bf had 2 Ducati's and 3 dirt bikes. He was obsessed with riding. It's all he talked about and the only thing he wanted to do in his spare time. I spent most weekends at his parents farm riding dirt bikes, and he couldn't spare an evening until he came home from work and had a spin on his road bike. I didn't mind the motorcycle riding at all, and I learned to ride a dirtbike to spend time with him. It was the obsession that was annoying. It's all he talked about- and I often felt like when I wanted to do something that had nothing to do with going to a bike show, watching supercross, or talking about riding, that he was bored and agitated. I don't mind bikes, and I'd date someone that rides, as long as it's not an obsession. He did have numerous accidents riding dirtbikes, and he wrote off his Ducati after we broke up while on a road trip with his buddies.
Author conehead Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 Never imagined that being a bike rider could be a deal breaker. I'm not going to attempt to convince you about what I see as a misconception when it comes to motorcycle danger. We have it, along with tailored stats and anecdotal evidence shoved down our throats from such a young age that it's difficult to be unbiased. I'd suggest not dating the guy. If it's even a question in your mind, it'll probably cause a problem later if you get serious. Eg. You may subconsciously poison the relationship by arguing about spending money on the bike, or riding the bike instead of spending time with you. The above are exactly my thoughts. Now I'm not sure what to do in my situation. I've never met him in person before. Mutual friends gave him my email address and we've only been emailing for a week. We have a date set for this Thursday night. Only after we set our date did he tell me he rides motorcycles, which turned my excitement to disappointment. I'm 90% sure I won't want to date this person, and not because I see anything wrong with a person who rides, just that I personally can not handle it (I witnessed a motorcyclists crash in the freeway and his body just lied there without moving when i was a kid and it kinda traumatized me). So should I even waste both our time meeting up on Thursday? Or should I just cancel it? Please keep in mind we do have mutual friends though so I don't want to piss anyone off.
runner Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 if a guy had a big cock and knew how to use it, i think most women would let him get away with far more than just riding a motorcycle occasionally. just my observation.
Rorschach Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 This topic makes me miss my motorcycle.
AverageJoe Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 So should I even waste both our time meeting up on Thursday? Or should I just cancel it? Please keep in mind we do have mutual friends though so I don't want to piss anyone off. Cancel it. Do not even waste his time. Who cares what other people think.
Lady vs Panda Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I would date him casually but not seriously.
D-Lish Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I would date him casually but not seriously. Just because he rides bikes sometimes? You'd see him as someone you wouldn't take seriously?
Rorschach Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I have to admit there are some opinions being thrown around here that I can't even comprehend. I'm a biker, but the 'biker' is a persona I put on with the leather jacket and helmet, most of the time I don't act like a biker at all, until I'm actually riding then I enjoy playing up the 'rebel without a cause' like an actor in a play. this is what ALOT of bikers do, some people want to live their whole lives as bikers, but many simply wear it as a persona. When I ride I'm extremely cautious, most bikers are, cars tend to not see bikers for some reason, they can look right at us and not see us. As such I learned (like all bikers) to drive extremely defensively, to never assume that your seen. I've ridden regularly for 5 years and have never been in an accident (had to dump the bike once when some idiot cut me off and slammed on his brakes, but it would have been worse if I was in a car, it would have been an accident instead of just a few scrapes on my bike). While I can understand not wanting to ride them, and I can understanding thinking that they're more dangerous than they really are. I'm not quite sure how to understand the 'if he gets on a bike I could never date him' mentality.
D-Lish Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I have to admit there are some opinions being thrown around here that I can't even comprehend. I'm a biker, but the 'biker' is a persona I put on with the leather jacket and helmet, most of the time I don't act like a biker at all, until I'm actually riding then I enjoy playing up the 'rebel without a cause' like an actor in a play. this is what ALOT of bikers do, some people want to live their whole lives as bikers, but many simply wear it as a persona. When I ride I'm extremely cautious, most bikers are, cars tend to not see bikers for some reason, they can look right at us and not see us. As such I learned (like all bikers) to drive extremely defensively, to never assume that your seen. I've ridden regularly for 5 years and have never been in an accident (had to dump the bike once when some idiot cut me off and slammed on his brakes, but it would have been worse if I was in a car, it would have been an accident instead of just a few scrapes on my bike). While I can understand not wanting to ride them, and I can understanding thinking that they're more dangerous than they really are. I'm not quite sure how to understand the 'if he gets on a bike I could never date him' mentality. One positive thing that came out of my relationship with my ex who rode incessantly was to look out for motorcycles while driving- I do that with a new outlook since dating him. He hammered that into my head- do a double check, and I do.
Maggotface Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Turn ON! I have a bike myself and love it.
Lady vs Panda Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Just because he rides bikes sometimes? You'd see him as someone you wouldn't take seriously? I choose not to become seriously emotionally involved with someone who regularly engages in an activity I consider highly risky. It's a risk-assessment evaluation. The medical community refers to them as "donorcycles" for a reason.
Rorschach Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I choose not to become seriously emotionally involved with someone who regularly engages in an activity I consider highly risky. It's a risk-assessment evaluation. The medical community refers to them as "donorcycles" for a reason. The whole world is full of risk, you can't avoid it. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. In my mind that alone makes me less risky than other guys.
Lady vs Panda Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 The whole world is full of risk, you can't avoid it. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. In my mind that alone makes me less risky than other guys. In your mind, great. In my mind, I wouldn't get seriously involved with a motorcyclist. I'm familiar with risky undertakings and have made my personal assessments and choices.
Alexanda Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I wouldnt mind as long as the guy wore protective gear.
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 Cancel it. Do not even waste his time. Who cares what other people think. Joe's right, Conehead. You've already decided that you don't want to date him, so you'll just end up looking for reasons to validate your decision. It will be a waste of his time and yours. Regardless of your reasons, you've made up your mind, so just call it off. Tell him the truth - it probably won't be the first time he's heard it. I have to admit there are some opinions being thrown around here that I can't even comprehend. I'm a biker, but the 'biker' is a persona I put on with the leather jacket and helmet, most of the time I don't act like a biker at all, until I'm actually riding then I enjoy playing up the 'rebel without a cause' like an actor in a play. this is what ALOT of bikers do, some people want to live their whole lives as bikers, but many simply wear it as a persona. When I ride I'm extremely cautious, most bikers are, cars tend to not see bikers for some reason, they can look right at us and not see us. As such I learned (like all bikers) to drive extremely defensively, to never assume that your seen. I've ridden regularly for 5 years and have never been in an accident (had to dump the bike once when some idiot cut me off and slammed on his brakes, but it would have been worse if I was in a car, it would have been an accident instead of just a few scrapes on my bike). While I can understand not wanting to ride them, and I can understanding thinking that they're more dangerous than they really are. I'm not quite sure how to understand the 'if he gets on a bike I could never date him' mentality. It's like people who won't date firemen, cops or soldiers. They're so afraid of getting "the call" that they'd rather risk not finding love than risk losing it. The irony of it is that we all go sometime. As one of my favourite quotes goes, "death is more universal than life; everyone dies, but not everyone lives."
fltc Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 I choose not to become seriously emotionally involved with someone who regularly engages in an activity I consider highly risky. It's a risk-assessment evaluation. The medical community refers to them as "donorcycles" for a reason. Would you date someone who drives a car? That's a higher risk activity than riding a motorcycle, believe it or not. Don't take my word for it, check with the nhtsa.
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