hydorclops Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 seriously. Unlike my last thread that got deleted before I even finished typing it, I'm not kidding around, and have a serious question. This idea comes from Dan Savage, who gives sex and relationship advice. I have to paraphrase what he wrote but the upshot is this: In order to find an SO you have to be willing to be seen as an ***hole. If the person you're interested in does not find you appealing, and they know you like them, they will think you're an ***hole. And they'll tell all their friends and a bunch of people will think of you as an ***hole. He says you've got to be OK with that. This applies to all people. It seems kind of blunt, and isn't always true, but I kind of agree that it's the way to bet.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Well, as usual, Dan is a little over the top, but he's right. Whether they actually think you're an *******, pathetic, a non-entity or whatever, you've got to be OK with it. If you need to protect yourself or be manipulative (trying to control what the other thinks / feels about you rather than revealing your actual self) you are terribly ill equipped.
Rorschach Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 When I saw the word ******* being thrown around I immediately assumed this was another 'jerks get all the girls' thread. Upon finishing reading I was pleasantly surprised. I'd agree with this, the idea that you have to be yourself and be fully prepared for people not to like you is absolutely true. Not everybody you meet is going to think your a super fantastic fun to be around person and you have to be okay with that because some people ARE going to think you are a super fantastic person, and thats who you're looking for.
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