beyondwtf Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Little background... I met this girl through a friend. We then got close in a very interesting way. Then little by little, more attraction and we then we were couple. So fast uh? I was wondering too. It was about 1 month for that... I had my doubts at the beginning. She had many BFS and I had none, since I think its very troublesome. But I felt something special, so I fell. But then, we had a little fight. She cried about how I was going to leave her,balblablalballba, etc etc, about how she cant trust me... balbla. Before this little fight, she also had many times when she cried, but what could I do? Just tell her not to and comfort her, but her reasons for crying where the above mentioned... Nonsense, right? Well.. in this little last big fight, i just told her, its your fault, its not my problem if u think too much, i have done all i could, and more to let her know that i can be trusted ETCETC. then a month passed and she avoided me, then lat week she told me she thinks we are not fit for each other... that she likes one of his ex more, beacuse of his personality, etc. But they are not dating but just seeing each other, even thought she was with me. So... is it my fault? of course im having a hard time... but i shouldnt have fell in the beginning... i think i will continue with my waiting and still call myself someone who never had a gf! hahaha Just want to know what happened here... my fault? am i too direct? Beacuse i believe in honesty... not fake caring, fake comforting...
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 But then, we had a little fight. She cried about how I was going to leave her,balblablalballba, etc etc, about how she cant trust me... balbla. Before this little fight, she also had many times when she cried, but what could I do? Just tell her not to and comfort her, but her reasons for crying where the above mentioned... Nonsense, right? Well.. in this little last big fight, i just told her, its your fault, its not my problem if u think too much, i have done all i could, and more to let her know that i can be trusted ETCETC. Beacuse i believe in honesty... not fake caring, fake comforting... The way you describe what she was upset about doesn't exactly demonstrate genuine caring and comforting...
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 lat week she told me she thinks we are not fit for each other... that she likes one of his ex more, beacuse of his personality, etc. That's what happened, she doesn't like you. Let her be. From what you've written in your post, I wouldn't like you much either.
Author beyondwtf Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 she had many sad episodes, but in the early ones, i always really cared for her, really comforted her with my heart... but she still came up with those ugly things about me... about how im too good (i dont have any habits for drinking,clubbing, etcetc.) and that i might not really like her beacuse she had a bunch of bfs and how im gonna leave her for someone "better". and i kept telling her, and showing it wont happen and its not like that etcetc. But she wont listen, until one night, she cried and i had to say to her, stop thinking like that. but she kep saying it was my fault and of course... i had to be "honest" and tell her its her whos thinking too much. since that day she has been distancing and she decided to be just friends last week. maybe she really cried beacuse of her past bfs... any situation she was having with one of his ex bf, beacuse she told me she had been seeing some him when she was with me... So, is it my fault for being too patient? I had to stand that kind of crap talk about me? no. but i sitll like her... what can i do? hahaha
Author beyondwtf Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 (edited) she had many sad episodes, but in the early ones, i always really cared for her, really comforted her with my heart... but she still came up with those ugly things about me... about how im too good (i dont have any habits for drinking,clubbing, etcetc.) and that i might not really like her beacuse she had a bunch of bfs and how im gonna leave her for someone "better". and i kept telling her, and showing it wont happen and its not like that etcetc. But she wont listen, until one night, she cried and i had to say to her, stop thinking like that. but she kep saying it was my fault and of course... i had to be "honest" and tell her its her whos thinking too much. since that day she has been distancing and she decided to be just friends last week. maybe she really cried beacuse of her past bfs... or any situation she was having with one of his ex bf, beacuse she told me she had been seeing some him when she was with me... So, is it my fault for being too patient? I had to stand that kind of crap talk about me? no. but i sitll like her... what can i do? hahaha btw... I really. i like communication but everytime i asked her whats wrong, i begged her to tell me. asked her if i could do something! but no, she said nothing... It hurted me so much to not have the lelvel of communication i wanted... maybe that made me treat her a little bit cold... But thats me, very direct. I told her what i though but she was not as open as me... so idk... Edited September 20, 2010 by beyondwtf
Author beyondwtf Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 sorry... can someone give me an opinion?
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