brainygirl Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Ok, so I am single and probably will always be single because I am too independent and not "girly" enough to catch and keep a guy's interest. Whatever. I'm on OKcupid and I was browsing and there is my exhusband's picture and profile looking back at me. I read it, and it says he's single and looking to date and just got out of an abusive relationship. Except I know he's been living with the same woman for almost a year, first with her parents, and now they are renting a place together. I also know that he's unemployed and on unemployment (my childsupport checks amount to 40 a month because of his reduced income). If you were his girlfriend, living with him, would you want to know that he has an active dating profile up that clearly states he's looking for a relationship. (as opposed to some that just say they are there to play the games and do the quizzes)? Would you want to hear it from his ex-wife? or should I chuckle and leave this one alone? Oh, and I blocked his profile so I shouldn't show up to him and he shouldn't show up to me.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 How would you feel if you were the GF and found out he had been cheating due to being on such a site? That should help you dictate your answer.
bayouboi Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 i'd leave it alone. also, ur first sentence seems disconnected from ur question and the rest of ur post.
Author brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 How would you feel if you were the GF and found out he had been cheating due to being on such a site? That should help you dictate your answer. I'd be pissed and put him out that night. But her house is where he lives and where my kids go to see their dad. When he isn't seeing a woman and living with her, he doesn't see the boys. Also, I am sure he's told her horrible things about me, I doubt she'd find me a trustworthy source.
Author brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 i'd leave it alone. also, ur first sentence seems disconnected from ur question and the rest of ur post. apologies, having a disconnected evening.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'd be pissed and put him out that night. But her house is where he lives and where my kids go to see their dad. When he isn't seeing a woman and living with her, he doesn't see the boys. Also, I am sure he's told her horrible things about me, I doubt she'd find me a trustworthy source. There you go then, question answered. Leave it be a chuckle gently to yourself.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 That's horrible! The poor girl. To answer the question, yes I would want to know and I wouldn't care who from. I'd hate to be left in the dark about something like that. The longer this kind of thing goes on, the more it will hurt when she finds out. I would be devestated. I'd definitely feel a moral obligation to tell the girl. Or atleast confront your ex husband. I know it could result in a lot of drama, but that's just cruel. And why chuckle? Do you have a bad past with this girl or something?
Author brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 That's horrible! The poor girl. To answer the question, yes I would want to know and I wouldn't care who from. I'd hate to be left in the dark about something like that. The longer this kind of thing goes on, the more it will hurt when she finds out. I would be devestated. I'd definitely feel a moral obligation to tell the girl. Or atleast confront your ex husband. I know it could result in a lot of drama, but that's just cruel. And why chuckle? Do you have a bad past with this girl or something? I tend to not have great thoughts towards women who let men who owe childsupport and are less than involved in their kids lives move in and help raise her kids. mean of me, I know.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I tend to not have great thoughts towards women who let men who owe childsupport and are less than involved in their kids lives move in and help raise her kids. mean of me, I know. Okay, it seems like your issue is more with your ex husband rather than with her though. I can see why you wouldn't want to get involved. You don't owe her anything and you could quite possibly (probably) involve yourself in a lot of drama that you're not responsible for. If I were her though, I would definitely want someone to tell me that my husband was planning to cheat on me. But who knows, she might not even believe anything that you tell her. She might even think you're jealous and trying to break up their relationship.
tami-chan Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Nah...leave it alone. What he does in his life in reference to his relationship with that woman has nothing to do with you.
Mike B. Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'm on OKcupid and I was browsing and there is my exhusband's picture and profile looking back at me. I read it, and it says he's single and looking to date and just got out of an abusive relationship. A man stating that he just got out of an abusive relationship in his profile? I suspect that he won't be getting many replies.
loverofloveandstuff Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Nah...leave it alone. What he does in his life in reference to his relationship with that woman has nothing to do with you. If you saw someone getting attacked on the street it wouldn't have anything directly to do with you either. I hope that not everybody would turn a blind eye though. Just sayin'.
tami-chan Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 If you saw someone getting attacked on the street it wouldn't have anything directly to do with you either. I hope that not everybody would turn a blind eye though. Just sayin'. Apples and oranges-don't be silly. She does not know what's going on in that relationship.
Crazy Magnet Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I personally would want to know if my live in man had an active dating profile. Does it say when he last logged in? You can always send a link from an anonymous email address to her. People say it's not your business, but I think any situation that may involve the well being of your children is most def your business. Your number 1 duty is to your boys. Do what you think it best for them.
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